Thanks for all the good advice and understanding.
I have done the "tell me about you" thing.
I always help with clean up and set up.
There doesn't seem to be an easy way to learn names of other mums. They seem to know each other as many of them have older children and have been going for longer.
I have brought morning tea before but got the "it's not your day you didn't need to bring anything".
I offered to help one mum with a new job she is going for as I'd done the job for a long time..........she talked to me a bit that day but has not asked for the info since.
I really tried to go to a mothers group before this but found it waaaay too hard......all that complaining about normal baby stuff like sleepless nights and nappies.......arrrggghh!
I was thrilled to have a live baby and didn't care that he was getting me up for feeds and stuff!
I also make a real effort to welcome any new people but most of them seem to know others.
I have lived in this region for 12 years but perhaps because I'm a little older I don't fit in.
I am wondering if I should try another group but the only other one is on when my son has another activity so would go from one thing to the next........he'd be tired I reckon.
I have a friend with a son about the age of mine who said she'd come along but so far she hasn't done so.
DH says to just not go but my DS needs to hang out with other kids and his two friends (whose parents I know) live about an hour away and each in the opposite direction!