Update:
My daughter is scheduled to have her tonsils and adenoids removed late April. ENT said they are large, not red but large and would therefore affect her airways and potentially swallowing. I have gotten rid of her morning bottle which wasn't too hard and so she will now eat something first thing in the morning with a cup of cold milk. She is still living on sausage and nuggets plus other bits and pieces she will eat. I've managed to get her to start eating pancakes and achieved that by simply using a cookie cutter and making them into love hearts, she wouldn't touch them before that. So will see what happens after those tonsils come out.