DD is 2.5 and usually goes to sleep with DH reading books to her. If she asks for me she likes me to sing to her. At this stage there is no way known that she'd go to bed awake, on her own, and fall asleep by herself. Honestly I don't see how or when that will happen, but she's been the one to lead so far - no more breastfeeding to sleep, and going straight to her room instead of starting in ours.

The times she takes way too long and I just cannot sing anymore, I tell her I'm tired, I need sleep and so I'm going to close my eyes and she can go to sleep. She does go to sleep, but sometimes it takes a while. I guess one day it'll just be one book, one song, then sit with her til she's asleep, and one day she won't need that.Will

For me right now nights on my own aren't too bad as DS is usually asleep on the boob while I sing to DD. Ask me about this when he's older and it may be a whole different kettle of fish. But my ideal is still reading/singing to them til they're asleep then transferring one.

Good luck, I hope you find something that works for you.