How to tell my MIL that I dont want my DD leaving me overnight yet.

[Reet]

O.Princess. Its only a 2 hr flight so not too far away, but I think even if it was a 2 hr drive and I wasnt going to see her for more then a night I wld be just as against the idea! Whenever she has made plans for DD to go and see them she has always said she wld fly down and get her or like in a few days time, my 15 year old niece is flying up so DD cld go with her... she said its a perfect way to get DD on the plane cos she loves her cousins! Ummm what happens once DD realises mummy and daddy aren't there?! Cousins will only give her so much happiness and comfort.
I will just have to take ur advice and be straight up and say 'I feel shes too young AND im not really to leave her yet' I know they will just think im being silly but oh well.. I wld rather be that kind of mother then one that offloads my baby at any old time.

Joeve- its so frustrating!!
My inlaws do actually visit every few months but its always the same thing 'can DD sleep over tonight' or 'can we take her back home with us'. I just need to toughen up and say 'when we're BOTH ready ill be sure to tell u!'

I am due to have a baby in april so I imagine its going to get worse since they'll think then that their doing me a favour by taking her.

I have to talk to MIL soon, im feeling so anxious about it all!

[raffy]

DH and I went on a belated honeymoon recently (we waited until we felt comfortable leaving the boys) it was for 8 days and although we enjoyed ourselves it was hell! I missed them so much and I skyped them every day and thought of them every second! I don't plan on leaving them again anytime soon! The only reason I went was because my mum offered to fly over from WA to NSW to have them, she is the only person I'd trust with them for that long, I felt more comfortable because it was my mum, whereas I wouldn't have felt ok with it if it was the ILs despite how much I love them! They also say things along the lines of sending the kids over for a holiday, but the kids are 3 & 2 and ILs know we wouldn't even consider it for several years

Anyway long story short! She is your DD and it's up to you when you feel comfortable leaving her! You can only be honest with them! Eventually they'll get the picture and stop asking and wait for you both to be ready.