Some kids are just extra happy to be with mum. My DS1 still cried all through the first 3 terms of kindergarten. My DS4 is 3.5 now and hates going. He screams and cries and hides under the table so he doesn't have to go. Then has a great day when he actually gets there. I would definitely meet with the carer when you have your questions ready and are more able to concentrate. If its just the separation anxiety I wouldn't hesitate in booking him for 4 year old kindy next year and like someone else said - if it's still an issue later he can do 4 year old kindy twice.
There are some definite similarities between our LO's...
DS was 3 in May, and while he doesn't suffer traditional separation anxiety, he is an anxious child. In fact, I was talking to his 3 yo kindy teacher today (after raising the issue with her earlier in the year) about getting him some help. She is going to recommend a few avenues - paeds and OT. She's never mentioned repeating 3yo kindy. But she did say his kindy next year would be concerned, so I think it wise to look into it earlier rather than later. I too never considered, and still don't, that he's not 'normal', though I do know he's different from other kids.
DS is articulate, intelligent, sensitive, creative and friendly. His social/emotional, and physical skills don't match these skills - he's overly cautious and definitely not a risk taker. DS is very clingy at home and follows me everywhere, even from one side of the room to the other. Not like that when we're out and about so much anymore, unless its busy. He wakes at night and comes in (often saying he's 'lonely' or needs a cuddle) and never waits for the sun to come up on his Groclock either! He is constantly asking DH or myself to 'keep him company', to the point that it stops him enjoying normal play (he can't go get a toy from the box on the other side of the room as its too far to go by himself). He doesn't climb or play at the playground like others his age, preferring to push the coloured sliding balls around or play shops (I always used to wonder if anyone actually played with those parts of the playground when there were slides and ladders!!).
I know it seems a bit extreme to be thinking of professional help for a three year old, but I would rather intervene earlier than later, and if the professionals think there's nothing to be concerned about, then that's fine.
Kids are all different, and I don't think you should be blaming yourself for yours being the way they are. I don't blame myself for the way DS is. But if I can help him to cope better, then surely I owe it to him.
Personally, I agree that lots can change in 6 months. Can you accept the kindy place, but cancel later if you change your mind? Surely other families move or change their minds at short notice too...yes, it's inconvenient for the school, but you need to worry about what's best for you. Look into avenues for support and see what you can find.
I hope me sharing our situation helps. Would love to hear what you decide.
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He is constantly asking DH or myself to 'keep him company', to the point that it stops him enjoying normal play (he can't go get a toy from the box on the other side of the room as its too far to go by himself). He doesn't climb or play at the playground like others his age, preferring to push the coloured sliding balls around or play shops (I always used to wonder if anyone actually played with those parts of the playground when there were slides and ladders!!).
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