Toilet training resister! 3 and a half and he just won't do it!

[feeb]

DS1 was 3 years 7 months before I one day just decided to put him in undies and send him to CC as was over the nappies! He did very well and no issues and had 2 accidents only in 2 weeks and both were when got distracted on way to toilet, poo's took a week. Night TT he told us on his 4th birthday was not wearing a nappy to bed as he was a big boy!

DS2 was 3 years 1 month and was relativly easy just needed push at start to go. However poo's in toilet took him till 4 years 5 months before he would not do in a nappy! He would put on a nappy do a poo and bring us wipes and a bag to change him!! (would hold on allday if we were out or at CC) No matter what sort of bribes we tried nothing was working, so we stopped saying anything about it and in the end he told me 1 day he had done a poo at CC, ad next day I said hay go to a poo in toilet and he did!! End off issue.
He is no where near night trained as often wet in morning but night time is a developmental shift and can take till age of 7 for night.

Good luck it will happen.

[kateo]

My DS is nearly 3.5 and still has the odd accident. I have discouraged the potty and gone straight to the toilet. He is keener to do poos on the toilet than wees.
I must say one strategy I used was to leave him in a stinky or wet nappy for a few minutes longer than I might have before TT then go REALLY slow to change him. I would say how much quicker he'd get back to a game/TV show if he'd just gone to the loo himself.
He now sometime wets his pants if he's really busy with an outside game.
I found using his busy nature helped and making sure using the toilet was faster than a nappy change helped.
Good luck it's a tricky stage and I'm glad I won't be doing it again.