What is wrong with my 2 year old?

[Lily Dust]

Firstly Mrs P, I want you to remember that just cause she is your IVF miracle it doesnt mean you arent allowed to feel annoyed or frustrated with her. Yes, we fight harder to get our babies but we are human too and when little girls are 2 they can be very hard work! You aren't super human so dont beat yourself up for feeling the way you do. We have all been there

It sounds like she is testing the boundaries with you especially since recently thigs have changed (you havent been your usual self), as they all do at different phases. Kids of this age struggle with getting across what they want and all these emotions can confuse such underdeveloped brains. I know I often cant articulate what I feel, so imagine what it must be like when you dont even know the words that correspond with the emotion

Can she have her bed comforted through the day, but only at home? I found with DD when things like this happened and I didnt fight every battle they passed that much quicker. Although at the time I thought, 'argh, Im going to have a kid with a dummy and a screaming mess till she's 30!'.

We also found that warning her that this activity was coming to an end soon helped her a little. She knew that things were winding up, the tantrum still came but not as severe after a while. Perhaps you can ask her what she would like to do ie 'The tv is going off, would you like to do a puzzle or play with lego' kind of thing??

Honeslty, I find these are stages. I often used to be in tears telling DH that I had a miserable baby who if she could walk would pack her bags and move out turns out she just hit some pretty huge developmental leaps early and is now much more smiley. I guess, what I mean is you just never know whats going on in that little head