Pregnancy After Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage/Late Loss February 2009

[Rozzie27]

Wowee, haven't been here in a while and I come back to two birth announcements!!! Wonderful!!!

Congrats to Theresa and Diana on your little boys, I wish you peace and happiness in these early days, and especially that Fabian gets nice and strong and gets to go home soon.

XXOO

[Berry1]

Congratulations Theresa, such wonderful news. Welcome to the world precious Zarian (great name) we have all been praying that you would arrive safely & you have
I hope you & Zarian will be going home soon, your DH must be over the moon! Enjoy your babymoon Theresa. So happy for you hun

Beata, I'm sure your NT scan will be fine (as you keep saying to me - ha ha). It will be so good once we are both past that stage with wonderful results

[mummabec]

Hi all, it's taken me a while to work out where people post when they are pregnant!

I'm Bec. I'm pregnant with my third child. I have Eliana who's 3. Our son Luca was stillborn in January when I was 35 weeks pregnant. I had a maternal condition that was not treated properly and I'm really still trying to come to terms with it. I'm now pregnant again and it's such a time of mixed feelings. I was never meant to be pregnant again - Luca was meant to complete our family and now our family will never be complete. And the condition recurs, I had it with my daughter too, so that's pretty scary.

I am excited to be pregnant again though. It took us 12 months to conceive Luca and only 4 months this time so I found that much more encouraging.

I'm 6 weeks pregnant now and the days are dragging by. I'm hoping that I'll be so busy with finishing off my Masters (final report when I'll be 16 weeks) and work etc that time will go a bit faster. I have an 8 week scan booked in so that's something to look forward too. I didn't have an early scan with my others.

It's lovely to see some birth announcements in here. Congratulations to you both!

xx Bec.

[Laney]

Congratulations Theresa and Diana! Please keep us posted on how your little boys are doing.

Bec- I am sorry to hear about Luca. I hope that you have doctors treating you during this pregnancy that you have confidence in.

[helle]

Laney *waves* it's good to hear from you!

Bec, welcome! Don't worry your preg time will fly by. I found out I was preg when I was 3 and a half weeks and now I'm almot 21, I sit back and wonder where the heck all the time went!

[Linzy]

ROLF, Thanks Berry...It's the good company that gets my tongue wagging . I know what you mean about not being able to imagine yourself with a baby too. I get that same feeling sometimes and I start to worry that it's something telling me because I never will. But it gradually starts to fade, especially when you're getting thumped in the bellybutton all day long

Laney, DF has his heart set on naming this little one Jackson, (maybe I have a "son" fetish?) Still trying to come up with middle names though. I really love Riley, or Reid.. Just toying with them for the next 20 weeks i reckon and see what we come up with - or if i'll get sick of them XD

Theresa, Angelversarys are not easy, that's for sure... and I've only so far "celebrated" Jayvans EDD. I try to be positive and look at the... positives, (I wouldn't be the person I was if Jayvan wasn't in my life, even if it was for only a short time) but sometimes they don't quite outweigh the anger and saddness of having lost our precious bubba's. I'll be thinking of you this week chicky! And give your little munchkin and snuggle from me!

My lil nephew is Jackson Riley! I love both names

[Berry1]

Hello ladies, quick post to say my NT scan went really well today. DH & I were so relieved, this is when things went very bad for us last time, NF result of over 8, this time it was 1.7-2.1, so in the normal range. A prof of fetal med did the scan, so I felt in good hands. Having another scan at 16-wks to check the heart, as Jasmine had a fatal heart condition, but so far very very good result. Risk of DS is 1 in 6500. We have started telling more family & friends, feel like I can relax somewhat.

Have a lovely weekend.

[Laney]

Great news Berry! I am glad that you are more relaxed now. I hope you are able to really enjoy your pregnancy.

[Miss.B]

Hi Megan, just popped in to congratulate you on your great results, I am so happy hun! I knew they would be good! Your DS results are awesome! Keep it up hun, everything will be perfect this time around, I've no doubt

Love & big hugs
B xxx

[mummabec]

That's great news Megan!! The best. Glad you are relaxing more now.

AFM, feeling exhausted most of the time and I've been fragile and teary too. I sat at the edge of Luca's garden and cried last night.

Went to a SIDS and Kids 'support during pregnancy' meeting on Tuesday which was good. One of the couples we met months ago at the other support group were there so that was really lovely. The parent supporter's first baby died and she has gone on to have two healthy babies since. She had miscarriages in between and she shared that she used to say to herself 'today I am pregnant', which is a really positive way of taking it one day at a time, I thought.

Two of my best friends are pregnant which is great. One is also 7 weeks and I think the other is around 12 so that's really great. Seeing all my pregnant friends go on to have their healthy babies was very hard after Luca died (it still is hard), but it will be nice sharing the journey again with other friends.

Hope everyone is well and as relaxed as possible.

xx Bec.

[Zachary's Mom]

Hi everyone

Zarian is doing well but is still in hospital. He is truggling to feed and most times has to be fed via tube. It is quite disheartening but I am trying to keep my spirits up. We are hoping he will come home next week.

Things are crazy but I will try get on again soon.

Hope you are all going well with your pregnancies. You all deserve your precious bundles! I am sending all the positive vibes in the universe your way

Love Theresa xxxx

[mummabec]

Hi Theresa, are you able to express milk for Zarian and/or hoping to breastfeed? If you are I'd love to send you the Australian Breastfeeding Association booklet on breastfeeding your premature baby. I have a copy at home. Just PM me your address if you'd like it.

Hope things get easier very soon.

xx Bec.

[Berry1]

Hi Theresa, good to hear from you. Hang in there, I am sure Zarian will be home soon. It must be hard with him still in hossy. You have been through so much, but I know your beautiful baby will be home with you & DH soon & feeding wonderfully

AFM, we have started telling more family & friends about the pg, which has been really nice as those that I have told so far know what we have been through & are so supportive, but I am starting to get quite nervous about telling 'everyone' I'm so scared that something will go wrong again. Does anyone know the risk of m/c after 12-weeks? I googled it and it looks low, but I'm just stressing now I think!

I hope everyone is well. Thinking of you Diana and your little guy, I hope he is growing by the day & will be home soon as well.

[helle]

Hi Theresa, good to hear from you. Hang in there, I am sure Zarian will be home soon. It must be hard with him still in hossy. You have been through so much, but I know your beautiful baby will be home with you & DH soon & feeding wonderfully

AFM, we have started telling more family & friends about the pg, which has been really nice as those that I have told so far know what we have been through & are so supportive, but I am starting to get quite nervous about telling 'everyone' I'm so scared that something will go wrong again. Does anyone know the risk of m/c after 12-weeks? I googled it and it looks low, but I'm just stressing now I think!

I hope everyone is well. Thinking of you Diana and your little guy, I hope he is growing by the day & will be home soon as well.

Berry, 1% of woman miscarry after 12 weeks. 99% take home their babies! (so my preg book says) To me it seems more than that - but I guess because we're in that circle it would seem so. This has been my little chant throughout my pregnancy, when I start to get the jitters.

Glad everything went well for your NT scan too! (knew it would )

[Miss.B]

Hi Girls,

Grrrrr, I lost me post Just a quick update on little Fabian, he is doing 'beautifully' in Diana's words, keep sending those prayers his way girls. Diana says 'hi' and says thanks for all your messages girls (I have been passing them on).

Hi to all and take care everyone

B xxx

[Zachary's Mom]

We are home and doing well! I will be on again soon but trying to catch up on some sleep.

Take care xxxx

[Berry1]

Theresa, that is wonderful news, so very pleased for you. Enjoy having your precious bundle home & get as much rest as you can, when possible.

[Laney]

Theresa, I am so happy to hear that you are all at home and healthy. I can't wait to see some pictures!