thread: Pregnancy after Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage or Late Loss March/April 2010

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  1. #1
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    Feb 2005
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    Hey all,
    sorry for being so slack, ido come in and read all your posts though, everything is going well so far, but i am getting more nervous the closer i get

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    Nov 2009
    New England, USA
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    Kam -congrats on being this pregnant! What a HUGE milestone!

    Mo4- I am glad that your scan went well. So funny that you were right on with your dates originally. I hope you can keep those nerves in check.....Lightning never strikes twice in the same place, but I totally know what you mean!

    Dory- thanks for the advice, I definitely am leaning towards the cerclage....we are currently taking a 'watchful waiting' approach which could change anytime I feel like I need to. I am so glad your furbaby is up and back to normal. One of my puppies had a tumor removed on her ear this winter and it was terrible. They really are so much part of the family.

    Klee- best of luck with your date this week! How exciting!Glad the bub is measuring about perfect now. Let us know when your date is!

    Laney- the 14th is slowly approaching. I am counting down for you. It is nice to hear your thoughts about the doppler. We are thinking of getting one, but I keep weighing the pros and cons.....plus it looks like I am going to be in the doctors office all the time, so maybe I could get it doen a bunch there? I dunno. Lots of decisions to make. How are you doing with the waiting?

    AFM- Apt went GREAT! I have such confidence in my MFM docs. I had no exam done or anything, but we have a plan to manage this pregnancy and that is HUGE for me. Starting at 12 weeks they will be monitoring my cervical length and if it shortens at all or gets the least bit under 3cm then I will have a cerclage done. Also between 16-20 weeks I will be getting weekly shots of progesterone to prevent pre-term birth.....So we are kinda trying a variety of things since my previous loss was such a mystery. If I can prevent infection somehow that will get at all of my worries! Anyways we made a schedule for a scan and an exam on the 9th for dating (and piece of mind for me)

    Hope all is well with you!

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    Jan 2008
    Pittsburgh, PA
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    cmeglles, So glad to read that your appt. went well and that you feel comfortable with you MFM doctors.
    I am still uncertain if if the doppler is a good idea. I think for me, it does more good than bad. Really....i don't know which was worse....the shock and horror of finding out that we lost Parker at my 22 week scan or finding out with my DH at home that we lost Shelby because we couldn't find her HB with the doppler. I never had trouble finding Grayson's HB after 14 or 15 weeks. After I started to feel him move I didn't need to use it anymore unless he was very quiet one day. If you are visiting the doctor often you probably don't need one...unless you are a total crazy lady like me
    The waiting is getting harder. I thought that it would be a tiny bit easier this time around, it isn't.

    mo4, congrats on a great scan. I hope things get a tiny bit easier for you now.

    jlk, I thought the belly pictures that you posted were beautiful.

    Kam, what a big milestone! I know that you will not be able to relax until bub is in your arms.

    klee, yay for a nice big baby! I can't wait to read when your date is!

    AFM, I still have 12 days to wait for my scan...I am in a state of constant worry now. DH isn't really giving me much support and I am feeling pretty alone right now. I really thought that this was going to be easier this time around. I am crossing off one day at a time. My mom and Grandma are coming for a visit in a couple of days, for Grayson's party. I think that will be a much needed distraction.

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    Aug 2009
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    KAM - well done girl. A pregnancy personal best every day now.... relish those milestones. I am so proud of you. Understandable to be worried about the future.....

    Cmeggles - very glad you have a plan you are happy with and maternal fetal medicine dr who you are developing a relationship with. You're welcome on the info. It was one of the hardest decisions I have made in this journey and I really agonised over it, for a long time, even though I had discussed it immediately following Sophie - a whole 7 months between then and when I got it done. Maybe too long to be thinking about it? Have you discussed steroid injections after 24 weeks which will assist in the baby's lung development? Specifically it speeds up the surfactant development which helps bubs if bubs is prem. Just glad to hear you have confidence in your plan and medical team. it really does help.

    About the doppler - as I go to see the Dr every 2 weeks at least, I decided not to get one. Although the thought was initiallyappealing. My ob had trouble finding bubs heartbeat in some of our earlier consults, and had I been at home I would have freaked out. But having the ob there, gently reassuring me and quietly confident helped me. I can go to see m ob any time I get worried, so for me that is a much better option. I would rather get any news from him and have him there to support me and develop a plan, rather than let my worst fears and terrors take hold with me all by myself. Now, bubs kicks with much more regularity but my ability to detect them all can be sporadic. The ob says it can be like that right up to 28 weeks. Just depends on how much room bubs has.

    Klee - that's awesome - how are you going? Any news?

    Laney - oh sweetie. It's such a tough time for both you and DH. Hard for you both. I am so sad that you are feeling alone. That is a really lonely place to be. I know it doesn't seem like it when you're in that place, but you are worthy, and you a loved, a great deal by those near and far. Some are just to silly to show you how much.

    What sort of party are you planning for Grayson? A aussie ex pat friend of mine made a "magic" theme cake for her 6 yr old and it is amazing. Magicians hat upturned with a white rabbit emerging from the hat. I don't think I could do that at all. But maybe its just practice? I like cup cakes ( 0r patty cakes)... here I go again off on a food tangent. I think I am obsessed.

    Mo4 - well done on the scan. it's so ironic that the dates you originally gave ended up being the "correct" ones. Just goes to show that babies really do develop at their own pace... are you feeling more assured or confident?

    JLK - in fact its a good sign, I reckon, not to feel the need to post. I have felt a bit more like that lately, things seem just to be going well, so even though I read, I don't post. So well done. Hope you stay happy and healthy... take care.

    AFM - I am like KAM, every day since about 2 weeks ago is the most pregnant I have ever been! So each day is truly a celebration. Next week we are taking cat #2 in for a tooth extraction so no doubt from Tuesday on I will be distracted by worry and fussing over my precious little fur ball. Belly rubs to all, and thinking of you.

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    Sep 2009
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    hey guys!

    good to see everyone still in here!!
    I am havinf a hard time atm and i cant even pin point why..
    i jjust feel the need to cry and i am stressing so bad...i thought the good scan wouls re asure me but it didnt... we had a great scan with Kyarna at 16 weeks then went back 2 weeks later and she was gone... arghhh i just want to be happy and excited about this!

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    M04 - hang in there... it is tough... but you can do it and so can sweet pea.

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    Jan 2008
    Pittsburgh, PA
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    mo4, I am in the same boat as you. Having a really tough time atm. We can get through this.

    dory, i just made cupcakes for Grayson's B-Day. He doesn't care for cake just yet so I didn't do much. We are having a family party on Sunday. My MIL is decorating with sponge Bob stuff and getting a Sponge Bob icecream cake. Too bad I can't eat any dairy while pregnant

    AFM, this anterior placenta is driving me crazy. I could feel Grayson kicking at least once a day by 15 weeks. I think I felt a little something a week ago but now nothing.
    SB, When did you start to feel little kicks?
    Well, I better get back to cleaning. My mom and Gram are coming for a visit tomorrow. Should be a nice distraction before my scan. Oh yeah, and DH and I have been married for 4 years today. We are going to try to go out to eat. That is if Grayson agrees to a nap.