Pregnancy After Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage/Late Loss September 2009
Welcome to Pregnancy After Recurrent Miscarriage/StillBirth/Late Loss.
This is an exciting time but also one that can be filled with anxiety and concern. The aim of this forum is to provide women who have suffered from recurrent miscarriage, still birth or a late pregnancy loss a place to meet and share experiences. Many women in this forum will be on medication which brings in itself many questions and areas where support is needed.
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I've posted a few days ago and lost the whole thing, so here I go again!
Ellie, congrats hun! I wish you a safe and smooth road ahead x
Bec, I have popped out too! The last 2 weeks I really popped out, having to wear that belt extender thingie, soon I'll be in my maternity clothes...lol. I'm glad I kept them all from last year. The ring you got for Luca is just gorgeous! I made my DF buy me one at Christams b/c my friend told me that every time a baby is born in her family, her hubby buys her a ring, so I used that as an excuse! It's an eterninty ring, and I have Joshua's name and date of birth engraved on the inside.
Laney, I hope I feel the movements soon! I think I'm feeling flutters ATM. Glad everything is going well with Grayson
Jo, good to hear from you hun! I'm so glad Kaitlyn is giving you so much joy, I can't believe she's 5 months already! Woohoo!
Jos, woohoo to 32 weeks! Don't worry about the stitch coming out hun, it'll all be good
Teagz, so close to your big day now! I can't wait to see some pics. Glad everything worked out well with your dress, phew! Your ring sound so gorgeous too, every time I look at mine I think of Joshua I'm stoked your little bub's heart scan went well, very happy hun!
Megan, how are you going darl? Any movements yet?
AFM, I finally got the combined blood/scan results, the trisomy 21 result is 1:5610 so I am just so happy! My OB said it was excellent and very low risk. So I am over the moon, and have started telling people especailly the ones that have been giving me suspicious looks for the last 3 or so weeks! lol. Nausea is easing off now, so hopefully I will be bouncing around soon!!! ha ha.
Diana has sent me a couple of pics of Fabian and he is so precious! He is doing so well, think he might be going home in about 4 weeks.
Beata, I need to start getting some maternity/bigger clothes too. A friend of mine gave me a heap of hand me downs, but she had twins, and they're a little big still for me yet! So far I have only had to buy a couple of those belly belt things (just a stretching bit of fabric, really) and I wear them over my jeans and leave the fly undone. But, work skirts are getting, ah, rather snug now... actually I think I may have ruined them now and put a forever lasting "bump" inprint into them. Oops. never mind. I'm really hanging out for summer/warmer weather so I can get some of those maxi dresses and go all Nichole Richie Bump style. They are so many different prints just coming out to choose from too, I won't know where to start!
Excellent news about your results too!! And your morning sickness. Don't youjust love it when everything just starts to click into place And what did I tell you about the luck hehe.
So great Dianna and Fabian are going well too. and Woot for only another 4 weeks!
Happy friday all! Hope you all enjoy the long weekend (this week or next - which ever weekend you get it!) Pray that the weather is this good next weekend - don't fancy looking like a drowned fat rat in my wedding gown
Beata, congratulations on your scan, that's wonderful news. Its quite a relief isn't it? I too am getting quite a bump now, definitely in maternity clothes! No movements yet, but its still rather early, I may not for another month or so. I hope you are starting to feel better as well.
Teagz, is it only one week to go - wow! I'll be thinking of you next week & praying for beautiful weather! Whatever the weather is the day will be very special & memorable for you. I have great memories of my wedding & it ending up pouring during the reception All the best & a big congratulations Will you be going away on a honeymoon?
Bec, you must have your scan coming up soon? almost towards the end of the first trimester, its such a great milestone that. The ring you got in memory of Luca sounds beautiful!
I had a 16-wk scan on Thursday to check the baby's heart & everything is looking fantastic, I am so very happy & feel like I can finally start to relax a bit. The OB was able to check a lot of other things and all is looking good, dates are a few days ahead, so all in all I am quite pleased & getting excited!
Berry, that's great about the scan. And it sounds like you are getting really closely looked after which is fantastic.
Teagz, you must be so excited about your wedding now! Enjoy the day. Don't worry if anything goes wrong - it will be perfect just the same!! Can't wait to see pictures of your dress. Have you got special underwear to go under it? You could get DH to take a baby bump picture in that later on
Beata, those results are great. You must be thrilled. LOL about suspicious looks. I've been in maternity clothes since 6 weeks but surprisingly no one has said they were on to me when I've told them I was pregnant. I have been able to stop wearing sacks to work now I've told people there!
AFM, I have my 12 week scan on friday.
Got a recall from my gp about my blood test results. Panicked all week waiting for my appointment, though tried not to. Turns out my TSH is low which can indicate a maternal condition of pregnancy. Surely I can't have another one? Gestational diabetes and obstetric cholestasis are enough! Good news is my liver is still fine.
Been a bit anxious lately. Still waking up at night and not getting back to sleep for hours thinking about Luca's pregnancy and this pregnancy. I did write a picture book about Luca for Eliana in my head last night when I couldn't sleep, though. I'm going to write the words on the computer and get her to decorate it!
Hi jlk... how are you going?????????? I am hanging for news on you this week!!!! What day is your check up????? I need to know what day to worry for you!!!!!!!!!
Hi katiegirl!! Feels like half a reunion in here!! As i said before- i am too a recovering scan addict- i had them monthly with shane and so far i have only had the regular run of the mill scans!! Not even a dating scan!!! I will have more though i think further along as i see the OB more as he has one in his rooms, but congrats on trying to cut back!!
dory... I will be thinking of you tomorrow, i am not fully aware of your history, did you have a little boy or girl? I iwll light a candle for your angel tomorrow
AFM.. doing well here, feeling more wriggles which is soooooo nice!! And thinking about names and i even sorted through some baby clothes yesterday- i went through and picked all the ones i could re use and i have a box of blue things to pass onto to a few friends who are having boys - they already have girls, so we might end up doing a swapsie. And i had a friend drop off some pink things today- its a big thing to be organising and getting things ready- but i take it as a positive thing coz at the moment it feels right, so i will go with it!
For now i am off to bed goodnight all, belly rubs and seet dreams xoxo
Katiegirl - So excited to read your post! Congratulations hun! So here we are together again...wonderful!
Dory - Will be thinking of you tomorrow xxx
Bif HI to everyone else...back to my sick bubba and hubba lol!
mummabec... Thanks for explaining that to me. At least you know if you start to feel the signs of it happening again.. and with lots of extra appts, they will get bubs out if they think they need too xoxo
klee.... yeah my friend is pretty smart so i might listen to her!! I hear ya on trying to keep up with a little one!! DS is quite funny- he makes the groaning sound i do when i sit down on the floor when he sits down!! lol or a big ahhhhh sigh!! So cute! But i have to watch him- he is so quick!! if i am sitting down and he gets up and runs somewhere i have bucklies of catching him!! Lucky my house is Shane proof!!! And lol at us catching up with our bellies!! Oh and you can have your crazy lady back- she is giving me the poo's!!! nah seriously you dont have to take her back.. does anyone else want her??? Going cheap!!!
Jude.. have you heard from your dr yet to see if he wants you to come in earlier? I hope the days are going quickly for you!!
Oh and what is SPD????
Dory... I hope these early days are going ok for you too and that your crazy lady is keeping in check
Laney.. I hopeyour crazy lady is around the corner
katiegirl... Hey there i hope all is going well with you xoxox
Ellie... Hi to you too, i hope life is being nice and relaxing for you!!
jlk..... stalking stalking stalking.. i forgot to check what time your appt was today.. but just incase you read this before you text me- (or i text you coz i am getting impatient...) i hope all went well today and TEXT ME!!!!
AFM... So yeah, crazy lady is rearing her head.... she was locked up nice and good- but the determined little so and so found the key and let herself out!!
Like klee said i just need some patience and the movement will increase. I think its kind of a bit of a test for me all these silly things like the anterier placenta. One i dont get my regular movments, and too i get worried about the placenta.. but like i said- i see it as a test, i was so positive with shane, so this time i just to remember to focus on the success's. Even with these added tiny hurdles, i can do it!! I will just have to learn to hide that key better so the crazy lady cant get out again!! But if she does, its nice to know i have people who understand to talk to!!
Also stalking to see how jlk and your scan went. I hope to hear wonderful news very soon.
Kat, I also have an anterior placenta. I had it for Anna and again for this preg. I have been lucky in that it hasn't had any effect on me feeling the movments...thankfully. I feel for you not feeling regular movement as I am sure it would send you mad. Just so you know...my crazy lady has invited herself back to my house and for some reason I am getting concerned that the baby is not moving as much. I think it actually has to do with the fact that I normally have fortnightly appts and the next was this coming Monday, but I had to cancel as I will be in Brisbane and so will have to wait another week. I think somewhere in my mind, I am thinking that this means something bad will happen, such rational thoughts. I didn't realise an anterior placenta put you more at risk with placental problems - or have I read your post wrong and this is due to your other conditions? Excuse my ignorance!
Have to run but sending big happy vibes to everyone. Anna is playing out in the sandpit (without my assistance for once) and I love watching her. Will be back later to check on the news.
Katie.. its pretty much just in my head that an anterior placenta will be a cause for problems.. so please dont worry anyone else who has one!!
For me- its just that with zahra- my abruption was pretty much unexplained... (long story coming) often an abruption is caused by clots forming behind the placenta and pushing the placenta away from the uterine wall. With me- i had a bleed at the edge of the placenta.. some time between 18 and 35 weeks.. the bleed clotted (refer now aswell to my stress re aspirin.... ) which was actually a good thing.. so come our scan with Zahra at 35weeks they noticed the clot and said it was holding and should be right. Add extra mental stress and anguish and 24 hours later the clot broke free and i bled internally and the placenta abrupted...
NOW.. the drs say the most common cause of placenta bleeding is a trauma such as a car accident where the belly hits the steering wheel or some kind of bump to the belly. My placenta then was to the side, not exactly anterior or posterior (i think) and there was nothing i could think of that had caused trauma to my belly...
SO... when the crazy lady grabs hold she tells me that with the placenta out in front its right in the firing line for trauma. And if it could happen once without me knowing it can happen again, especially when a little someone loves to kick my belly (not the little someone IN my belly ... DS)
AND,.... add to this worry- that technically i once tested a very low positive to Aca (a blood clotting disorder) and i had an abruption (though one NOT related to the disorder... ARE YOU STILL WITH ME???? MY CRAZY LADY GETS COMPLICATED!!!) My new specialist (as i have moved cross country) hears the "tested positive" and "abruption" and tells me to take aspirin....
NOW crazy lady lady says "no way" if my very vulnerable placenta gets injured and i bleed i DO NOT want to be on aspirin, i want it to clot. The Dr who knew my history (a specialist) who knew my results RE the Aca, told me NOT to take it with Shane- so in hindsite i am trusting his advice from two years ago- and my reasoning.. Shane is here, my placenta was fine- not a single clot. Every scan so far it has been fine. So i am going against my drs advice and not taking aspirin.. so of course my other crazy lady (coz lets be honest i have a few in there who often disagree) tell me what if i SHOULD TAKE IT???!!!!
So thats pretty much where the emergence of crazy lady entered.... i feel like i am f''d if i do and f'd if i dont, and my body isnt giving me any reassuring MOVEMENTS!!!! But i will be ok... my instinct is to not take the aspirin.. i am fairly set with that one. I felt wrong taking it, so i stopped. As for my placenta (oh and for later there is a tad more stress involved there.. its low too and is so far clear of my c section scar.. but we might need to check on that closer to delivery incase they go to cut me open and cut through the placenta instead... yay) i just need to make friends with it.. and trust it will all be ok!!!
Wow- that actually felt good to write out.. sorry for the all about me post.. but feeling a bit less cray after getting it all out there!!! Thanks for reading!!!
STALKER ALERT...... Update on jlk...
ALL IS GREAT!!!! BABY IS PERFECT IN EVERYWAY.. EVERYTHING IS LOOKING FANTASTIC!!!! SHE HAS A BIG DRIVE HOME AND WILL POST SOME MORE DETAILS PROBABLY TOMORROW!
Last edited by ~StarBright~; March 3rd, 2010 at 03:20 PM.
: UPDATE ON JLK
jlk, I know that this will not be the end of your worry but what a milestone!
Starbright, I think that you should definitely go with your instinct with the aspirin. If you don't feel comfortable taking it, it is not worth the stress. My doctors tell me that "we don't know if aspirin therapy works in practice but it sounds good in theory". I think that most doctors would prescribe you aspirin. It is standard practice here in the US for someone with a past abrution and possible clotting disorder to take it. Just know that a low dose of aspirin does no harm. It will not keep you from clotting.
Oh, and my crazy lady is already starting to find her way home to me. As soon as we started putting effort into TTC, I started to check on Grayson at night. Every night I have to make sure that he is still breathing.
Katiegirl, I always hated that one week that appts. got mixed up or skipped. That change in routine caused me lots of stress. I think the fact that you are getting close is also causing you to worry a bit. (I just looked at your ticker!)
angelicdragon, I craved water with Grayson. I drank like a fish! My DH told my doctor about it because he was so concerned. I don't know why water drinking would scare someone, I guess it was really out of the norm for me.
klee, have you picked any names yet?
BBL to read jlk's post.
Grayson is 9 months old today! Where does the time go?
Last edited by Laney; March 3rd, 2010 at 10:13 PM.
well as SB said everything went perfectly at yesterdays scan, bub is most definatly a fidget, wriggled the whole time Plus we were able to find out the sex.... .......ITS A GIRL. (for those of you who have me on facebook, keep it a secret! lol)
Re: Pregnancy After Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage/Late Loss September 2009
Really not coping too well ATM which is why I have been quiet. I hate this stage and it is just a horrible wait. The occasional moments where all the negatives just overwhelm the thoughts. I have had no bleeding this time - my only other pregnancy without bleeding was Caitlyn. The abnormal nuchal needing an amnio kind of helped (in a weird kind of way LOL) but I still worry.
sorry to just drop in with a question but at 5am it is really on my mind...
question for those who have ever had a D&C. I know this is D&C #8 for me but it seems odd. I have NO loss at all! There were a couple of watery pink smears while in hospital on the loo paper but since then nothing. I gather it was just what was left in the vagina afterwards coming thru but seems rather odd.
I've had cramps and taken panadeine .. I am used to it being light AF type straight after then within 8 hrs it is like a heavy AF. I am going to ph the midwives in the clinic in the morning but I think I may be asked to go in. I am thinking that what has happened is a piece of large tissue has got stuck in the cervix like happened when I m/c Joey then I just gushed everywhere for hours once it was pulled free with forceps and I ended up in theatre. At least another visit would now be free as I have paid my yearly access but still...Robert has to work tomorrow so I'll have to either see if Shannon my neighbour could drive me in and ask Tash to watch Daniel or drive myself in.
When I bend over I get a really sharp obstructive pain right across under my diaphragm at the base of my ribs.
. PS D&C was 8:30am Tuesday morning and it is now 5am Wednesday mornng and still all clear on TP and pad.
AD, I would get checked out to be sure hun. After my D&E with Parker I didn't have much bleeding at all, only a few little spots. I was very surprised and I got it checked out. I did have pretty bad cramps for a week or two. After a week or so I started to get heavier cramps and I had a little bit more bleeding. Please let us know how your appt. goes. We are all thinking of you.
Angelic - I am with Laney, get it checked out, but by now you probably have called the middies. I hope you're ok. Thinking of you.
Michelle71 - be strong. You can get through this. I know its tough, but when you need inspiration or strength, just go look inthe mirror and you will see a beautiful strong woman who can endure looking back at you.
Pregnancy After Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage/Late Loss September 2009
never mind. I'm really hanging out for summer/warmer weather so I can get some of those maxi dresses and go all Nichole Richie Bump style. They are so many different prints just coming out to choose from too, I won't know where to start!
And what did I tell you about the luck hehe.
All the best & a big congratulations 
Will you be going away on a honeymoon?
As i said before- i am too a recovering scan addict- i had them monthly with shane and so far i have only had the regular run of the mill scans!! Not even a dating scan!!! I will have more though i think further along as i see the OB more as he has one in his rooms, but congrats on trying to cut back!! 
Belly rubs all round!!
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