What's normal? What's not!

[Powelly]

Hi All,

Just wanted to throw it out there. I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant with baby no.3 after losing my first son to severe complications found in the 19 week scan in 2007. We have our gorgeous DS who is nearing 3.

I'm currently FREAKING out as the ultrasound draws closer and my anxiety has resurfaced, I'm so on edge that the slightest things are making me want to snap. My DH can't seem to say or do anything right and I just feel like I'm slowly losing my mind. Now I'm worried that I'm getting antenatal depression or something but then I ask myself, "are my feelings warranted after what we've been through". I was never diagnosed with PND after my last two births but I certainly struggled (as I'm sure most new mums or those after loss do). I am still happy, enjoy things and am getting on with my day to day stuff. Am I normal??? I just so want this scan over and done with...

Sorry to rant, just wanted to hear from others in similar predicaments.

[diannescruffy]

You are so very normal. I was exactly the same approaching my scan, at 20wks we found out Emmanuel had Trisomy 13 so was very anxious with my following pregnancy. Big maybe talking to your DH about how you are feeling may help you a little.

Regards,
Dianne
Emmanuel born sleeping @24wks
Trisomy 13

[Babyluv]

I'd say yes you're very normal. I think it's cause for concern if you can't find pleasure in anything you used to be able to find pleasure in.
I felt sick with anxiety the whole way through my pregnancy & DH had to pretty much drag me to my u/s there were many times and this might sound awful but many times I'd convinced myself my baby had died.
After what you've been through I'd say Noone could expect you to not have fears. Don't worry your DH knows what you've through, he's a big boy, he'll be ok.
Everything will be fine and in not long you'll be holding your precious little bundle in your arms. Just do whatever you need to do to get through each day and look after yourself.
Thinking of you hugs

[jlk]

What you are feeling is so normal hun, with our newest bub i was positive that there would never be a baby after the loss of our 2 angelsup until the time she was put on my chest after birth.

I spent the whole time paranoid that something was wrong