I have a friend who says "He's my first surviving." and leaves it at that.

Slot yourself in wherever... Laney's in my Belly Buddies thread (that's right, it's MINE! ) and I love it. There's hardly any innocence to steal, like Spring feared, as the majority of us have had a loss, albeit early. But it's very grounding, having a reminder that things can go wrong at any stage; stops you from getting carried away - which is good, cos if your head's in the clouds, bad news makes it further to fall. Hope that makes sense.

Don't feel like you don't "belong" anywhere - that's a perception of yours. If you change it, then you belong everywhere.

I say get thyself to a Belly Buddies group. And parallel post in a PAL thread. And everywhere else As if you need encouragement to spend time on BB...