I am 15 weeks and 2 days with my first pregnancy. I am so excited but so nervous. Although my mum, dad and sister know the good news (and are very happy about the new addition to the family), this is the weekend where we have decided to 'come out' (haha).
Im so worried about what people will think and say. My partner and i have been together for going on 5 years now but we're not married. I know this seems silly to even think of it as a problem, but what will narrow minded friends and family think about the situation? To add more reason for judgment on their behalf, we have been renting a room at my parents house while saving for a home deposit. Although i know we'll have our own home before the bub arrives, I'm still extremely stressed.
Today is Friday, and I'm off to visit my Grandparents for lunch and give them the news. After that it will no longer be a secret.
Just thinking, I would like to know your opinions on telling people at this stage of my pregnancy? Is it still too early? Should i wait until i'm definately at 16 weeks? Because this is my first i really am clueless. Mum thinks i should have told people weeks ago - but last thing i want is for people to know and something unfortunate to happen (touch wood).
Congratulations on your pregnancy. I hope it is a happy & healthy one. By all means go and shout it out to the world. Most women only wait til 12 weeks and you are well past that.
Try to ignore everyone's opinions. Some people will keep them to themselves, others will not be able to hold them back. Most people these days are not bothered about people having babies before marriage so don't worry about that. Expect some criticism about the living situation though. Your family will be worried that this will put your house plans on hold so make sure you get some firm plans in action as soon as you can. Best of luck with everything.
Tellytubby - congrats on the pg & congrats on the willpower you must have to have not told the world by now. I know with my first I was busting at the seams (literally) to tell people. 12 weeks is considered the safe mark so you are well & truly past that.
As to others opinions about you not being married, still with the folks - who cares what they think. You & DP are obviously committed to each other (it's not like you've been together for 2 minutes!). Just enjoy your pg, try not to stress & make some plans about being in your own place in plenty of time for bubs arrival! All the best!
congratulations on your pregnancy!
i think youv'e done extremley well to get to 15weeks before telling anyone.
wishing you a happy & healthy rest of your pregnancy
Hi and Congratulations on your pregnancy. You've done so well not telling the world until now. I couldn't wait that long lol. Don't worry about what people "might" think. As long as you and your DP are happy, thats all that matters. You are out of the "risky" period now too so shout it out to the whole world. You'll start showing soon so now is a very good time to tell everyone. Like the others have said just try to make sure you've got a place of your own to live before bub arrives. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Congrat on your pg...I hope all goes well and you enjoy it....dont worry abot what others think it is ultimatley how you and your partner feel.....if you guys are happy then that's all that counts. Good on you for waiting so long to tell the world....as soon as I knew I was pg we told the family straight away. There has been no babies in my DH family for 22 years so they are over the moon we told the mothers on mothers day then everyone knew after that. Although we may m/c I am glad I told everyone so they can understand what we are going through.....Good luck once again...
Congratulations on having a birth and a new baby to look forward to Happily NOT married here, two kids and a mortgage though I hope you have a good read of the excellent birth articles on this site
Congratulations on your pregnancy! What wonderful news!
Like has been said, you have done brilliantly to keep it a secret til 15 weeks...we told family at 4 weeks!!!
Wishing you all the best in telling everyone...I'm sure there will be plenty of people who will celebrate with you in this wonderful journey you are both about to take...
Congratulations on your pregnancy - very exciting. I would go for it - it is very hard to keep these secrets and contain them just to ourselves. I finally told some friends and family today (i couldn't wait any longer even though i swore to myself that i wasn't going to tell anyone till i was 20 weeks - yeh right !!!)
Don't worry about what people think about you guys not married or not having a place of your own yet....times have changed. I know heaps of people in similar situations and all we think is "can you hurry up and get married so we can go to a wedding !". People should only be happy for you - how can they not be ? And if some are not happy then they are just jealous !
You and your partner are No 1 here so that is all that matters - it is not being selfish - just sometimes we are more important than others and have to look after ourselves first.
Good luck and looking forward to talking to you in the pregnancy thread.
Congratulations on your pregnancy - honey, really, dont worry abotu what others think. I too fell pregnant without being married to my now husband, i thought my mum and dad would flip (even though i was 28 years old !!) - my mum and dad cried when i told them, they couldnt have been happier.....if your happy, then they should be happy....thats what matters after all!!
Good luck !
Hi tellytubby
Congratulations on the pregnancy.
You have great will power to have waited this long.
Good luck with everything.
Hope you enjoy the whole process and realise what a joy the kids are.
I have two beautiful boys.
good luck, catherine
Congratulations on your pregnancy!!
Your situation sounds similar to mine, I was worried what my friends/family would think and say...
I did have some negative reactions and lost some friends, and i posted about them in a thread, and there were some lovely ladies telling me not worry about them, because then you realise who your true friends are and also its your life, and one of the most exciting times you and your partner can experience together!
Congratulations! Wow, you sure can keep a secret!!
Hopefully people aren't as judgemental as you think they might be, but if they are..well, stuff 'em! Its nobodys business but yours and DP's. Married or unmarried really makes no difference to whether you will be a a committed couple and loving parents, and if other people don't get that, then try not to let it bother you.
As soon as you see your baby's beautiful face and eyes looking up at you, you will forget about this little hurdle and may even have a giggle at what you were worried about
wishing you the very best for your pregnancy.
remember to enjoy every moment of it and not to worry about what other people may think or say. As long as you and your partner are happy thats all that matters!
Im sure youll have alot of people happy for you!! Dont worry about what people say if its negative!! I had some people give me negative comments when i was pregnant and i read somewhere that their negative comments are just reflections on their own life.. ie THEYRE JEALOUS!!
Best of luck!! Its really the best thing in the world having kids!
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.... i hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy
Happily NOT married here, two kids and a mortgage though 
I hope you have a good read of the excellent birth articles on this site 
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