Congratualtions on bubs darl. I have to say you and I are like twins lol, I am 23 and my partner is 45 has two kids to previous x wife and had vesectomy done. Had a reversal but didnt work so we went through IVF, you need to tell your husband if he wants the vasectomy after you have bub then it can be very very permanent. He needs to understand that. We told the kids when I was about 16 weeks I think because we thought they would react badly but you know what, they then told us oh can we come and stay in the holidays? While they were here they were chosing names and looking at buba clothes with me and were completely different children.

As for your MIL I would not worry, you are happy and you deserve to be, I know how hard it can be. Just let her know this is another grandchild for her and another precious child for your husband I am sure they will see it soon, shock can take over for a few weeks xoxo stay strong, this is a happy time for you all.