hey guys thanks for the advice..
looks like we might have to tell people early because i actually dont eat meat except for mince and chicken lol i used to be vegetarian but got very sick and low in iron and these are now the only ones i can stomach.. so at christmas like i said ppl just buy a bbq chicken and some salads for me n if i dont tell them ill have nothing to eat... ughh its all so complicated.. thanks again for the advice tho