I guess it depends on what would be more stressful ... if the trip there and back stresses you out more than the apopintment has helped ... no good!

I'm glad you're comfortable with your ob.

What have they suggested? Are they keeping you informed? Are they able to help you with an action plan?

Have you been able to sit down with your DH and work out what is going to help you the most? I'd be starting there: what will help you to feel safe and secure, and then how can that be achieved. What strategies can be in place so that you can concentrate on having Beez, and bringing him/her into the world in a safe and calm way, where you're both healthy and happy afterwards ...

Then I'd be looking broader, to what else do you *want*

And who can help you achieve that ...