Intercourse in the First Tri

[WelshGirl]

I know this probably sounds really daft, but i'm a bit nervous about bd'ing now! Help. Is it ok to bd, as long as it's 'gentle?'

DH went pale when he thought we couldn't bd for 9 months!!

What do all you girls do about this? 8-[

[Astrolady]

We never BD during pregnancy. I kept telling Andrew I didn't want to give the baby a headache.

Love :hbeat:

[{sarah}]

We have done it twice so far Gwen & I'm now almost 21w.

I was worried cos it had taken us so long to get pregnant that I didn't want to do anything to hurt the baby, even though I knew it wasn't going to. But then after both times I had light spotting, only maybe a drop, which freaked me out & we decided no more for a while. But though apparently it is common to spot a little bit after intercourse when pregnant.

[WelshGirl]

We've bd'd a few times, but no spotting or else I would have freaked out so much. I'm so scared something is going to go wrong. 8-[

[Angel]

Well as long as you don't have any medical conditions like an incompetent cervix you should be fine. Having said that, after 2 m/c there's no way that my DH is getting any whilst I'm pg LOL or at least not until well into the 2nd tri. With my 1st pg I spotted after every time we BD'd and one time I just never stopped spotting and went on to m/c. 2nd pg I m/c'd only a few days after we risked BDing for the first time. I know it should be fine but with my history I'm just not willing to risk it LOL.

[Fi]

Hi Gwen,
We were trying to conceive for about 3 months when it happened, so it was pretty hard to cut back overnight!
I found I could go about once a week actual bd, but we still play around 2-3 times a week on top of that. A couple of times I have nearly chucked afterwards - funny positions - too much motion - but again ya just listen to ya body!
If I'm feeling crampy - its a definite no-no! If I'm feeling good - well maybe 2-3 times a week? I haven't had any spotting, but a couple of times I have felt a little crampy afterwards.
Poor men - its a rough lot for them isn't it!
Fi

[Ambah]

We BD'ed heaps during my pregnancy, at least 4 times a week!! But by third tri I was so over it, I had lost all of my libido, and just felt huge & ugly!!!

[WelshGirl]

I've heard that intercourse is fine as long as your a low risk pregnancy. Ah well, i'm going to check with doc tomorrow. 8-[

[Berry]

yeah we do about once per week, and we did throughout our last pregnancy with no problems.

[happygurl06]

as long as i'm not feeling sick we go for it... Dh likes to take every chance he can get when i'm not looking green..... night time is out as i am asleep as soon as i get home.... so we improvise!

[min]

i was nervous at first too, but as long as you are not having any complications, it should be fine, we have done it a couple of times and just taken it easy.

[Pietta]

I was exactly like Ambah. We did it as often as we could!! By 3rd tri though i was too knackered and felt like a hot air balloon so I wasnt feeling sexy either- but Ryley has turned out AOK, but I agree, listen to your body.

[Fi]

I believe its baby dancing?? A nice way of describing "intercourse"!!

[Angel]

Hey Ellen,

There is a thread here that might help you out with some of the abbreviations!

[Deejoy17]

Gwen - I think it`s fine to BD as often as you and DH like as long as you haven`t had any previous miscarriages. BD can`t hurt the baby, they say if you O the baby gets a kick out of it too.

DH and I BD almost every morning, since my pg he seems to have a high libido - I have had spotting after BD on 2 occasions on both occasions it scared me and we didn`t BD for a number of days after, it has all settled down now so it was to do with BD.

Take Care

Deeanne

[{sarah}]

Oh I forgot to mention that!! Cailin told me once that when you orgasm it feels like a hug to the baby

[WelshGirl]

We went to the doctor yesterday and he said it was perfectly fine to bd as long as we weren't too rough!

Thanks for all the info girls xx