thanks ladies. I went back and had a chat and showed the lady. different lady today and she was super helpful. we decided the one that digs in a bit we can put an extender on and it felt much more comfortable after that. the other one she said to keep for when I start bf as it might be better for then. i ended up with 2 Freya maternity bra's with the hotmilk to keep for later. it appears the Freya brand is better fitting for me. the hotmilk she agreed was not the right fit at the moment.

it appears i have gone from 12F pre pregnancy to a 12GG now so i need super supportive bra's!!