In order to give people, especially your friend SG, some reassurance I double checked this situation with a friend of mine who is an obstetrics registrar.

At 14 weeks the heartbeat is very clear. Around 6-7 weeks it can be hard to find, but any diagnosis of foetal death is made by two people. If one person has made a mistake, there's always someone to double check.

In med-speak, the term "abortion" refers to any situation where the feotus leaves the body prior to 20 weeks, whether this be spontaneous or otherwise. Miscarriage is officially known as "spontaneous abortion" but a lot of medical professionals won't use the term because of the connotations attached to the word.

Direct quote from doctor friend:
I think what has probably happened is either the doctor performing the procedure has written the word abortion on the notes referring to it in its medical term (removal of the fetus after it has died) and that is what has scared her. IF it was on any printed literature it is because often the computer programs that generate post op orders and discharge stuff have preset terms to use, one of which would be abortion.
I hope this helps put everyone's mind at ease.

BW