traumatised by this pregnancy - beware sob story

[visitor2]

Clare i will be thinking of you tomorrow

If you have the CVS done please try and rest as much as you can. I stayed in bed for two days after having the amnio done and i did no housework for 4 days

[Mumma2three]

Hi Clare, sorry you are experiencing this. I think under the circumstances what you are feeling is probably 100% normal. I know at the 20 week they found some "concerns" with our baby, and there is no way I could've gone another 20 weeks without knowing. For me I was lucky and could have u/s to monitor bubs, but it was a nighttmare, I was worried and even though reassured, it was a long bittersweet journey.
I hope that everything calms down for you and all is ok. Sometimes I really think they shouldn't tell us the statistics and what our "risk" is. It seems to cause so much unwanted anxiety.
Im sure you'll find alot of support on belly belly and I wish you the best oxoxoxoxo

[DoulaRelle]

Clare - I just wanted to pop in and give you a great big !

You have had so much to deal with over the last couple of months, so be kind to yourself and allow yourself to feel all of the emotions you need to feel.

I hope everything goes well for you with your appointment today, please pop back in when you can and let us know how you are doing.

[EllyBoo72]

Sometimes I really think they shouldn't tell us the statistics and what our "risk" is. It seems to cause so much unwanted anxiety.

Totally agree here. This happened to a friend, who had very high chances of having a DS baby. She had the amnio, and all was fine.

DH and I decided not to have any tests whatsoever, so I had no idea weather we would have a DS baby or not. We decided we were going to accept and deal with anything that arose as the time came. However, I understand and apreciate this isnt for everyone, our circumstances were totally different. But luckily we had a healthy DS.

As a whole, your decisions should be based on how you feel, and of course how your DP feels, and what you can cope with, your circumstances etc. There's usually an answer to all problems, you just need the right people to talk to who can give you proffesional advice, and support.

It is easy for us to worry needlessly, especially during pregnancy, and your thoughts are quite normal, as some girls have said. I am sure things will be fine...will be thinking of you.