When pg with my ds I had spotting from 6wks - 9 wks and was very freaked out so no one aside from dh and my boss (to make it easier to go to appts) knew until after the nt scan at 12 and a half weeks. I was desperate to tell my mum and dad, don't know why i didn't really, and even had dreams about telling them!

My last pg I had told parents, in-laws, boss and a few close friends. Sadly I m/c at 9 weeks and with the exception of a couple of friends who were not supportive at all, I was glad that those people knew. In the weeks after the m/c we decided to tell other close friends what had happened, and I definitely found it much harder to have to say "I was pg, but now i'm not..." than to tell those that already knew about the pg what had happened. The baby I lost was very unwell, so i definitely don't feel like i had "jinxed" anything by telling people at all.

With this pg I have gradually told parents, in laws, boss and the close friends that were amazingly supportive of us. It has been great to have their support again, quietly cheering myself and dh on when we get an attack of the wobblies (quite often!). Definitely less people than before but am very glad to have the support there when we need it.

It's a personal choice - most people knew we were ttc again so found it hard to keep it from anyone anyway!

As far as excuses for not drinking go .... I reckon being on antibiotics for a "sinus" or "ear" infection is the one least likely to arouse suspicion