I am just so similar to lestypuss it's slightly scary! We were also in the "no" camp for many years. One day I woke up and said to DH, I think I want kids (my clock came back with a vengeance after being AWOL for many years!).... knock me down with a feather, he turned around and said "yes, me too". So, after one miscarriage, we have our first.

I find it the most bizarre experience that i can still really understand where people are coming from when they don't want one, but for me it just changed and it was totally emotional. At this stage I really want a second, maybe because our first has lulled us into a false sense of security as he's a most gorgeous cruisey little fella. But if having a second isn't meant to be, then so be it.

But what i find amazing is the freedom that people have to comment on YOUR decisions. If you took a job somewhere or bought a house somewhere... they wouldn't judge your decision. But for some reason whether you decide to have 0, 1, 2 or more kids is something that people feel free to make very personal (and often hurtful) comments and judgements about. I think having a child is such a huge thing that it has to be right for you and your partner... no-one else. I think I'd be so tempted to turn around and tell them they should change jobs or move house... if they look surprised, then call them on the fact they're trying to tell you how to live your life!!!!

Ok, off my soapbox now