This whole making babies, being pregnant and birthing babies is so much harder and way more stressful than I ever anticipated or imagined!

I had my 20 week scan the other day and one of the measurements wasn't quite right. It was a measurement of fluid in the brain (they called it VM) and our measurement was only just over what they would like.... they want it to be under 10mm and ours was 10.7mm.. so just over. Although 'normal' is between 7mm and 8mm. Everything else was completely normal, which is a great sign.

I've been old that this could mean many things, including a chromosonal problem or handicap. They're pretty sure its not downs, because of all the other results and the fact they couldn't find anything else.. but they can't rule out another chromosonal (sp?) abnormality, or another 'problem' with the baby... ranging from something really simple to something severe. The results they showed us from a recent study were good but it was such a small sample size, so I don't know what to think. From 43 cases where the measurement was between 10mm and 12mm, 40 of them were completely fine at 2 years of age, 2 of them had a mild abnormality and 1 of them had a severe abnormality. So chances are, all is going to be fine but there's still that chance of something being wrong, and knowing our luck.....

Anyway from here, there are lots of tests we can do but most likely none of them are going to come back with anything specific. They took more bloods today to rule out a few things and I have another scan to book in for two weeks time.. so they can check it all again. They also suggested and Amnio.. again to rule a chromosonal problem out. I'm so unsure as to whether to do this or not. She said that most likely it would come back normal but that at least it would put our mind at ease and rule it out altogeher.. but there are obvioulsy risks in doing an amnio and I don't know if I see the point in it. But... then again, it would be nice to know for sure that there's nothing wrong in that department. So... I don't know what to do. The other test they want to do is an MRI.. which is fine and I think we'll do that in about four weeks too. Basically she said the more tests they do, the more things we can rule out and the better the odds. I'm a little confused still and very scared but at the same time, the odds are in our favour and we should be quite positive.

Sorry for the ramble... I just don't know whether to have the amnio in particular or not. It sounds like the risk of doing the amnio is greater than the chance of finding something from it... so it makes me nervous.. then again, we definitely want to know if something major is wrong.. so it's a bit of a catch 22. Anyone else been in this situation and what did you do? Makes me nervous doing it at 22 weeks too!!

Thanks.