I know this may sound completely stupid to some of you!
But what exactly causes a stillbirth to happen as nothing is in english on the net, its all medical terms..
Can you stop it?
How do you not be so afraid that it will happen?
I am not scared to give birth but im scared to come home alone...
Any suggestions?
Sadly stillbirth happens all too frequently and most often a cause is not found. I know that sounds scary - and you are right. Coming home with empty arms is incredibly difficult.
Birth is the great unknown and one of the lessons it can teach us is to trust. Trust in your body and the process of birthing. Trust that the outcome will be the perfect outcome.
Toward the end of your pregnancy being aware of movements and any marked changes - either too frequent or not as frequent can help alert to a baby that is not doing so well. Having good antenatal care is another.
Remember most babies are born healthy, alive and strong. Focus on the positive, take good care of yourself and your baby and trust...
There are alot ofthings that can cause a stillbirth but the chances are EXTREMELY low, so I wouldn't worry if I were you.
Do you have any conditions that are making you worry or is this just a random thought that as sprung itself on you?
And don't worry about sounding stupid! I have a bit of a fear of myself dying during birth I don't know why, but it crosses my mind every now and again!
Inanna- I try to trust in it all.. so lets hope that works.. thank you though.. just peoples opinions help!
Teags- I have high blood pressure and my ob gave me a phamlet on preclampsia.. i think thats what it was called.. so that has freaked me out. But still birth has always freaked me out and now its getting closer i get myself all worked up and read other peoples loss stories.. i wish i could stop myself! At least you have a fear of something also.. not that it is good at all.. but nice to know im not the only one! Everything will be fine.. just have to keep telling ourselves that!
I remember having this fear! Its normal to worry. The only thing I can say is stay away from the loss stories if you can help it. If your having dreams about it, its only your subconcious dealing with your fears, and is in no way a sign that its going to happen.
If your antenatal carer is monitoring your high blood pressure, and informing you of pre-eclampsia, then I think you are in pretty safe hands. Maybe get yourself informed a bit more on pre-eclampsia and what to look for, that way you can feel more at ease that you know what to look for if you need to.
Maybe keep a daily note of movements if it will make you feel more at ease. I remember when I felt my DD kick Id take note of the time so that if I did need to remember her last movements, I would.
I know its hard, but relax a little bit, and if you have any concerns at all, dont brush them off, get them checked out.
As Tannedangel said - if your care provider is aware of the possbility already then you are in the best hands and they will be looking out for signs early.
You know, as a parent, I think from the day you get pregnant till the day you eventually pass away, you will ALWAYS worry about your kids to some degree. First it's getting through the pregnancy safely...then the birth...then the rest of their lives - all without loss or injury. I think it's a normal feeling to some degree...obviously if it's a feeling that you think is starting to overwhelm you and you're getting really fearful, it can be good to have a chat to your doctor. But on the whole, just know that you're experiencing normal emotions
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Fear of still birth!
I don't know why, but it crosses my mind every now and again!
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