Michelle, firstly let me say that I really wish I could be with you to give you a big hug right now.
The girls in the previous posts have given you a lot of good advice and thoughts. I have had 2 amnio procedures done. The first with DD when I was 39 and the second with DD when I was 41. Both procedures went well and I had no discomfort either during or after. I was also scheduled to have one with my last pregnancy . But everyone is different. Yes, the odds of M/C are about 1/200 and with some specialists their personal rate are even better. Both times I went for the Doc. with the best odds (just happened to be my OB). But as someone else has said, you must consider what you are going to do with the results (if a negative outcome) if you go ahead and have the amnio. Terminate, proceed with the pregnancy. I have been brought up around children with Down Syndrone since I was 5 (my mother was a foster carer). Her last charge left our family home only after my mothers death and shortly before my fathers two years ago. He is now 40 and has been with our family since he was 2. We have had some happy , wonderful times over the years and I wouldn't have changed them for anything. But my personal decision if the amnio had come back with a positive result for Down Syndrone would have been to ternimate. I am still of this opinion despite having suffered another loss. My husband is behind 100%.

But we all are different and have different outlooks, opinions and reasons for doing what we do. I know you probably feel as if you don't have much time to make such an important decision. Get as much info as you feel you can cope with and make the deciosion that is right for you and your partner. Try not to feel pressurised by other people. This is a very important time for you and you must feel comfortable with what you decide.

Don't forget we are all behind you and will listen to you when ever you need to talk.

Do take care and I will be thinking of you.
Debbie