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Telling the family via email
I am really scared to tell my sisters that I am UTD.. AGAIN!
Do you think it is acceptable to tell them all via email (including my mother who I don't speak to very often anymore)?
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I think it depends why you are scared of telling them. If it is because they will have a negative reaction then I can't see a problem with email. Otherwise I'd be inclined to tell them in person. Also depends on your relationship with them. If were close to them then it might be a bit upsetting to be told my email but if you aren't really close then it wouldn't be such a big deal.
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i just didnt tell a lot of people at all until they figured it out as my belly got bigger..
What is going to be easier in the long run, calling them or telling them in person and dealing or ignoring their reaction, or having them go on and on about how you told them by email when they expected a phone call (This is a big assumption, but that's what would happen if I told my family by email)
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I think for immediate family and grandparents its better to phone them, if you have reservations about telling them then wait until 2nd trimester to say something.
If its a fear of negative reaction waiting would seem like a good option but I would still do the right thing by ringing them. If they get rude you can always hang up. If they argue why they weren't told earlier you can say you wanted to wait to make sure things were on track first.
I personally don't think email for immediate family is appropriate for such joyous news. You should be so proud of what you are creating inside you surely thats worth a call?
Besides at least then they can't complain about being told over the email which is less personal, if you do the right thing thats all that matters
Best of luck,
Nae x
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I agree with all the others, it depends on why you are not wanting to tell them..... i think that email is impersonal BUT that is all some people deserve..
remember this IS YOUR pregnancy - do what you feel is right...
i know if i fall again before my sister gets utd (she is long term ttc and about to start ivf) then it will be so upsetting for her, and its hard to be so happy about your own pregnancy and hear someone be so upset by the news.......... i think id just get my mum to tell her...but god willing she gets a baby!
Anyway enough of the negitive stuff congratulations - you are having a beautiful bubby this year! woohoo
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Tanya... if you don't feel up to speaking to your family to tell them about the new bub, maybe you could write them a snail mail letter instead of an email. It's just a little bit more personal, but you still don't get the 1000 questions like you would IRL
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i told heaps of people via sms - it's impersonal to a degree, but it got me out of talking to people, having the "but you told X first" convo...
not a single person whinged - if it's just your sisters, i'd do an sms saying "hi girls, just wanted to let you know at the same time, we're expecting another bubba in September - and we're so happy we just had to share!"
put it on them from the get go that YOU are happy - their opinions don't matter
congrats again and good luck with your pg
BG
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I told my mum, nan, and aunty all via email - Not because i didn't want to tell them over a phone call... Just because i wanted to tell them ALL at the same time, becuase otherwise i would only get the chance to tell one and they news wouldn be around the country side by the time i hanged up from the first person lol!
In this day and aged i didnt think it was that inpersonal :P They loved the way i told them (sent a funny guessing email) and i got all the phone calls afterwards
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I think email is fine but I know I would expect lots of phone calls immediately. I am a bit of an email junkie and would use it for most things including happy news but not for sad news (like if someone had died).
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If you don't want it to come across impersonal you can get free Ecards announcing a pregnancy.. That way its kind of fun kwim?
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Thanx everyone...
I dunno.... I just know I am gunna get the whole roll of the eyes from one of my sisters, she is never happy when someone has more than two kids. Just the way she is.
Plus, I will have to do the same speach so many times... bluh!
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Do whatever you feel like doing Hun!
You could go out of your way and design a special e-card with flashing thingys and music and show how exciting you are to be announcing another pregnancy.
thats more exciting than a phone call for sure!
And pfffft to your sister. Does that mean she has been unhappy for your last few pregnancies? How unfair.
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I remember coping crap off a few people for not telling them personally. What tehy didnt get was that I have such a massive family with everyone who is divorced that by the time we told both sets of my aprens, my sister, DP's divorced parents and his sisters, we were over talking on the phone! I have a step sister who still has no idea I am pregnant and I have no intention of ringing her to tell her as she is a nasty girl!
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I think it depends on whether or not you regularly contact them via email. In my situation, email and text is fine for my siblings but my parents I either tell in person or over the phone. DH's side all get told over the phone, via sms or through the grapevine.
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EXCELLENT ADVICE!!!!! this is what i did too. BG, sounds like your family and mine are bit the same!
anyways CONGRATS tanya. what a beautiful little surprise. tell the people who are close to you/special in person... do the rest with text and email. thats what i did.
my special sister screamed and cried and did a little dance when i told her on the phone (would have in person but she lives other side of the country). i love her so much.
my other sis replied to my text with "ha! bet you get real sick again this time! serves you right."
We sent both our parents our first scan picture via email at around 12 weeks and told them we had some exciting news and would call them that night.
This was perfect for us, of course the parents guessed from the picture so had time to get excited when we called!
If your sisters might be a little less than thrilled then I would email them, as you don't need to hear anything negative, you shouldn't be feeling worried about telling them, so if an email makes you feel more comfortable - do that! It is not worth the stress.
Email them how excited and happy you are, so they think twice about saying anything negative.
Fabulous News! Congratulations!!!
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