Telling the family via email

[Tanya]

I am really scared to tell my sisters that I am UTD.. AGAIN!

Do you think it is acceptable to tell them all via email (including my mother who I don't speak to very often anymore)?

[Spring Angel]

I think it depends why you are scared of telling them. If it is because they will have a negative reaction then I can't see a problem with email. Otherwise I'd be inclined to tell them in person. Also depends on your relationship with them. If were close to them then it might be a bit upsetting to be told my email but if you aren't really close then it wouldn't be such a big deal.

[Pandora]

i just didnt tell a lot of people at all until they figured it out as my belly got bigger..

What is going to be easier in the long run, calling them or telling them in person and dealing or ignoring their reaction, or having them go on and on about how you told them by email when they expected a phone call (This is a big assumption, but that's what would happen if I told my family by email)

[NaeNae]

I think for immediate family and grandparents its better to phone them, if you have reservations about telling them then wait until 2nd trimester to say something.

If its a fear of negative reaction waiting would seem like a good option but I would still do the right thing by ringing them. If they get rude you can always hang up. If they argue why they weren't told earlier you can say you wanted to wait to make sure things were on track first.

I personally don't think email for immediate family is appropriate for such joyous news. You should be so proud of what you are creating inside you surely thats worth a call?

Besides at least then they can't complain about being told over the email which is less personal, if you do the right thing thats all that matters

Best of luck,

Nae x

[Tegam]

I agree with all the others, it depends on why you are not wanting to tell them..... i think that email is impersonal BUT that is all some people deserve..


remember this IS YOUR pregnancy - do what you feel is right...

i know if i fall again before my sister gets utd (she is long term ttc and about to start ivf) then it will be so upsetting for her, and its hard to be so happy about your own pregnancy and hear someone be so upset by the news.......... i think id just get my mum to tell her...but god willing she gets a baby!


Anyway enough of the negitive stuff congratulations - you are having a beautiful bubby this year! woohoo

[MistyFying]

Tanya... if you don't feel up to speaking to your family to tell them about the new bub, maybe you could write them a snail mail letter instead of an email. It's just a little bit more personal, but you still don't get the 1000 questions like you would IRL

[briggsy's girl]

i told heaps of people via sms - it's impersonal to a degree, but it got me out of talking to people, having the "but you told X first" convo...

not a single person whinged - if it's just your sisters, i'd do an sms saying "hi girls, just wanted to let you know at the same time, we're expecting another bubba in September - and we're so happy we just had to share!"

put it on them from the get go that YOU are happy - their opinions don't matter

congrats again and good luck with your pg

BG