Thanks Persephone. I'll see if I can get him to bring home a copy of his conditions. I think I've got buckley's chance of convincing him to talk to his HR department...

I hear you about the "paternity" leave too. My employer's policy is written in terms of primary and secondary caregivers, not mother and father. I was involved in the preparation of that policy, but am not a HR person, so only have a basic understanding.