Anyone else had trouble accepting they were pregnant? When did it kick in?

[megaminz]

Hi All,

I was just wondering how many people took a while to really accept they were pregnant. I found out about 11 days ago now and I feel nothing yet. I am only just over 4 weeks along but apart from being a bit teary at the thought of finally having a baby it doenst feel real, I can't get happy.

I went through a stage where I was terrified it was a chemical pregnancy and it would all disappear, that still is a concern I guess and will be til I am past 6 weeks where that has normally sorted itself out if it was gonna happen.

Maybe its my lack of symptoms? I had heartburn the other night and got excited. But its gone again. Everyone else due in Feb I have spoken to has got at least a couple of symptoms, sore boobs, food aversions, nausea .... I have nothing.

If you had trouble really wrapping your head around being pregnant when did it finally sink in??? We were ttcing for 10 months and the people I have told keep saying "i can't believe you arent excited" it makes me feel bad. And I keep POASing like I expect it all to change one day.

[~Trish~]

First of all, congratulations! Please don't worry, you have plenty of time to get excited .

With my second DS I didn't get any real symptoms until I was 7 weeks and I still went on the have a very healthy bub.

It is very normal to feel a bit numb to begin with, there is so much to sink in and you kind of expect a huge explosion or something to happen when you first find out LOL! You will start getting more pg symptoms soon and will be more than excited soon enough

[megaminz]

Thanks Trish, I guess its all just sinking in. I think I had almost let go of being a natural mum, we were even due to go to a fostering meeting the night we found out.

I guess in some sick way I am looking forward to getting morning sickness and feeling it for real!!

[[M]umma[M]ia]

its only "really" felt real to me about 2 weeks ago. I think deep down i sorta thought nahh it couldnt happen to me, i wanted it too bad...its all in my head..iykwim.
being only 4 weeks hun, try not to stress... i felt great until i hit about 6-7 weeks. I never threw up tho thank god! Just take it easy in these early weeks ok. btw CONGRATS!!!

[megaminz]

thanks Holly. Its good to know even people further along have issues too! Yeah I totally had the its all in my head cause I don't feel pregnant!

Okay, just over a week then and the fun begins...got no choice but to wait do I lol

[ShootingStar]

TBH i dont think it ever really kicks in until you have that baby in your arms.. well it didnt for me. I didnt have any symptoms at all with either of my pregnancies but even so.. when i was getting contractions with DS it was still bizarre to think id being having a baby soon. I feel the same with this pregnancy. Just still dont believe it in a way.. even though my belly's huge! Again, i dont think it will really kick in until i have that baby in my arms.

[emmalou]

Hi megaminz!

I'm exactly the same and I feel like a bit of an ingrate, we'd been trying since January and now we've been given this little blessing and I can't seem to get excited. We haven't really told anyone yet though, and I have put it down to being worried everything's not ok. So I rang the doc on Thursday and begged to go for a dating scan which he'd prev. told me wasn't really necessary because we pretty well know our dates but was happy to arrange it to put me at ease. We go for that on Tuesday and I'm sure that'll make me feel heaps better!!
So in answer to your actual question, hopefully reality sets in around 8 weeks, like you I don't really have any symptoms either so nothing's really changed until we see that little heartbeat!!
And as far as people's response making you feel bad, I'm sure your reaction is completely normal and you can't let others get you down; especially cos they wouldn't mean to hurt your feelings!

Good luck with everything!!! I'll keep an eye out to see how you're going!

[megaminz]

congratulations to you too emmalou, I think a big bit for me like you is worried things arent ok. I guess not getting my hopes up too much. While we were tccing I was always buying things here and there and now I can't even start a pg diary!! I might try the tears on with my dr at 6week check up. See if she will let me having dating scan like your doctor. I think I just need to see that heartbeat..

How exciting for tuesday though. you must let us know how you go with it.

[Jac]

This is my second pregnancy and other than some weight gain and a growing belly I have, for the second time, no other symptoms whatsoever - so it can and does happen. No tiredness, M/S, food aversions or cravings, sore boobs, nothing. Everythings fine though I just don't get the usual pregnancy symptoms and you may not either. It makes it hard to believe all is well and the pregnancy is real. I still forget I am pregnant and am often wondering - "was I supposed to eat/do that" as it doesn't occur to me that I'm carrying a baby. You will feel more excited, I think, when you feel the baby move (a long way away I know) and for now, you should feel happy about having no nasty symptoms (yet!). All sounds normal to me. Big to you.

[Mumma2three]

Whenever I hear that someone is pregnant I get SO excited, but so far that hasn't happened with my own!!! I get pregnant and wait for the excitement but it doesn't happen. I think I get really excited at scans and also when they're born (but again, it just seems normal in a way, not like when someone else has a bub). maybe it's because we are expecting it, but with others, we may not be???

[emmalou]

That's soo true webmeg!! When it's not a surprise for you i guess it's not so jump out of your skin exciting! I'd never thought of it that way. Clever Girl!! Good luck with your #3!!