Will the RSVPs be to your friend? If so maybe give her the list of suggestions and then when someone RSVPs and asks her what you might like, she'd have a list to go off and she can tell each person that asks one or two different things on the list.

Not sure what you already have but I'd suggest getting a swing if you don't already have one. Both my bubs have loved the swing They can be exxy though so that's not something I'd put on the list.