It does have to bee all women though you could have a couples baby shower I didn't have one as I didn't want to organise it and I don't have that many people to invite anyway I'm not really a big party thrower, I feel uncomfortable with the fact that I am inviting them to something and they have to bring a present, when really they don't. I hate people feeling obliged to do things like that for me.

I have also never been to one but as far as I know it's your choice what you want to do, where you want to go, what you want to have.

I like the idea of a welcoming party. We sort of had one of those but just with our friends. We would have regular gatherings anyway but we had one not long after we brought Jonah home so everyone could see him at home rather than in ths hospital.