Yep its a tough one. Also you have a set idea in place. Like we were told everyone will buy your the bath products etc at your baby shower so don't worry. But I did buy stuff before hand cause I wanted a certain brand, a quality product you know what I mean. And I am glad I did cause although we got some nice stuff a lot of it was from the $2 shop and made in China or some other place that just didn't seem right. So I ended up chucking a lot out. I wasn't going to put a cheapy dummy in my childs mouth you just dont have the same careful quality control as say Tomme Tippe etc.