i agree - you don't have to have people waiting. i made it very clear from very early that no one was to be waiting. if they were, they'd not get near DD when she arrived as i wanted to do baby led attachment - plus that first little while was just about DH and I. my SIL was there as an additional birth support person and to take photos. she didn't try to touch DD, she was going to leave without a cuddle until i asked her if she wanted to hold her.

if you are concerned about others being there, simply tell them someone will call them when you're up to having visitors. my mum is a shocker for turning up too early, but i made it clear, told her i was exhausted and she coudl come in after lunch. when i was still awake at 10, i rang and told ehr to come over when she was ready. it takes 35 minutes from her house to the hosp - she was there in 40 lol