I am starting to feel a lot better. My DP has been great and my little dogs have been giving me lots of cuddles. I think they can sense when you are not feeling right.
To put a long story short...this awful girl who is so jealous of my DP and me (she is obsessed with him) found out I was pregnant and she sent an awful message on facebook saying that "I hope you have an ugly retarded baby" and a lot more other nasty things. She has called me the most awful names that I can not even repeat and I could tolerate this but when she said that about our child I lost it. I don't know what I did to deserve this but I honestly think there is something not right in her head. I was so hurt that someone could wish something like that on someone that I was distraught. DP is furious with her for being so vicious and has given her a piece of his mind and I have contacted facebook to complain about her but I cant believe the stress that it has caused. DP wants to go to the police about her harrassing us but there isnt much they can do as she hasnt threatened us.
I am hoping things are going to sort themselves out and she leaves us alone but I suppose I have to realise that some things are out of my control. The only thing I can try and control is me and I want to do the best I can for my little one. If she wants to be childish (actually I dont even know a child that could be that mean) then that just shows people exactly what she is like.
I have been listening to lots of calm music and catching up on some of the missed sleep I have had. I am lucky that I am just starting 2 weeks holidays so I might take the time out to go for a walk down at the beach and do some calming things for the baby and me.
It is so nice to know that there are complete strangers that care and are so supportive. Thanks for all your tips on how to keep calm and keep baby stress free. We have our scan next week so I am hoping i will get to see that our little one is just fine in there.
Just wanted to give yu a big . Don't worry about the silly cow. She sounds awful, but really she has no impact on you with her stupidity. Ignore her and she will go away. Enjoy this time with your DP and puppies and before you know it she will have moved on. People like that are so fickle.
Omg Ali, what a horrible person! She obviously doesn't have much else going on if she feels the need to interfere in your life so much.
If she is in your friends on facebook just delete her and put your profile on private. Then she shouldn't be able to send you msg's or anything. You are growing a beautiful healthy baby and have so much to look forward to!! Obviously she doesn't have the same.
AliBaby, I would definitely block this person on Facebook and make your privacy settings as tight as possible.
I think the hypnobirthing stuff would be good for you as it also teaches you how to use your breathing to relax and slow down your heart rate etc. I use it to help me get back to sleep at night when I wake up stressing about things.
Babies are very resilient to though - women give birth to healthy babies in all sorts of situations, going through famines, wars, terrorost attacks, floods - you name it. So don't stress too much about your bub, I'm sure everything will be fine!
Don't worry about your baby. We've just been studying this at uni, and extreme stress can sometimes affect a baby in the third trimester. But not with too serious results.
Your baby is nice and snug in there and very protected. Your baby won't have felt the stress you have been feeling.
OMG people can be so cruel sometimes, she is just jealous of you.. I would do what the other girls have said and block her and any contact from the nasty piece of work that she is.. I had an emotional time a few months before i had ds and everything was fine, just remember to look after yourself as she is not worth getting upset about and you are going to have a beautiful baby soon and she wont..
I have blocked her and made sure everything is private on all settings. It is sad that people can be cruel and want to intentionally upset a pregnant woman but as you said Abb, it is probably jealousy.
SJ and Mistree- thanks for your tips on how to get rid of her on FB. Very helpful so thanks again.
Nai- I will speak to my midwife about hypnobirth. It sounds like I would benefit from that.
Gabi- Thanks for the info on what you have beeen studying at uni. It is good to know that tests have been done on this and that baby wouldn't have been effected too much.
You girls have just been wonderful. Thankyou again for your support. And big :hugs: to all of you.
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. Don't worry about the silly cow. She sounds awful, but really she has no impact on you with her stupidity. Ignore her and she will go away. Enjoy this time with your DP and puppies and before you know it she will have moved on. People like that are so fickle.
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