Ok, so I'm 18 weeks pg, not been going to they gym and been stuffing my mouth with whatever is to slow to run and hide for cover ... do you believe your DH/Partner when he tells you that you "look sexy today" ????????
I am just not feeling very sexy atm. I'm wearing the same clothes every second or third day, I'm pale and looked washed out, I have like lumps and "curves" (for the lack of better words) that is not IN my clothes, but keeps oozing out, I'm moody and hormonal.
HOW can I believe that he thinks I'm sexy?? He's probably just buttering me up for later *wink-wink* BUT it's not helping, because I know that I'm everything but sexy today!!!
I KNOW he means well and that in his eyes I probably does not look that bad as the woman that I see in the mirror.
Oh I hear you sister! No sexy-ness in the mirror here either
I don't believe it when DH says it to me, and I think that in our case my DH is def trying to butter me up for later ..not working though I doubt he could really think it when I live in ripped trackies and daggy old tops everyday!
Men do definitely see things very differently to us though don't they...
I do believe it! I certainly didn't feel sexy a lot of the time - 9 months of 24/7 morning sickness both times but TBH I loved the look at least of my pregnant body when I got to the point when my belly was hard rather than just wobbly. Also, don't forget that your newfound curves and wobbles are because you're carrying your DH's child. If he's anything like my DH, that's proof enough to him that he is this Adonis-like creature spreading his seed, and that seemed to be a huge turn-on for my DH. And for the record, we didn't DTD more than a handful of times during DD#1's pregnancy and not much more with DD#2 so it wasn't that my DH thought he was softening me up for later!!
They sooooo see things differently than us. I wonder if we (women) makes the crusial mistake to compare us to the models we see in baby-mags or on TV, and our husbands just compare us to .. well, us I definatly look with longing eyes at that lovely pg lady in the pg-undies ad ... thinking WHY, oh WHY can't I look like that
Oh heck, Lulu ... send me some of that confidence I think I might just start feeling better when my bump is not this wobbel of a thing. But then again, by that time it's summer and OMG I would have to wear something cool!! I'm a whiner!!!!!!!!!
Don't get me wrong, I like being pg. I think my problem is that with my first pg, I was fit and slim and carried so very, very small that I did not even look pg. I handled it very well. THIS one is just not the same and I'm desperatly trying to come to terms with that. That said, going into this pg I knew things might be different ... I was just not prepeard for it.
But I'm glad that I'm not the only one who very much doubt my DH's compliments.
I didnt....then DF explained to me (over and over and over again!! lol) that he sees me as his PREGNANT parnter...And that the way I look when I am pregnant is sexy, because it is me, I still look good to him, and I am carrying his baby...which I think all men find appealing
DF still pulls out the lines now, when I make reference to my (already huge, now huger-er) breastfeeding boobs. Tell me that they show that I have fed and grown our beautiful girl and I should wear them with pride Which I do Even though I willcertainly never look like a pornstar again! lol
So I think you should believe him when he taells you you are sexy, because you are a fabulously sexy pregnant mumma!
Well said LimeSlice
Pregnant women are sexy.
You used to be his wife/partner and lover, and that’s pretty good but now you are growing his baby. You will soon be the mother of his child. He can watch the baby growing, see the baby moving, and feel the baby kicking. What could be sexier than that? Trust him when he says that you are sexy. Just sexy he can see in a picture but the sexiness he feels for you can only come from you and this far outstrips any nudie pic.
I agree that if he is telling you that you are sexy then he thinks you are sexy, you have afterall created 1 beautiful DD together & you have created another child together, of course he finds your pregnant body sexy - it is proof of his masculinity
Before I was pregnant my DP never really liked the look of pregnant body but he still thought I was sexy & beautiful when I was pregnant with DS because I am his partner having his child.
I know it is hard to believe when things don't look like they use to & you have all those hormones running through your body but your partner doesn't look at it that way. First of all he doesn't have those hormones going through his body he just sees you with his child growing inside of you, you may feel all pale & washed out but he sees your 'glow'.
Believe him when he tells you that you are sexy cause you are !!
I dont believe him all the time but most of the time i do.
I have my days where i feel and look crap and he tells me i dont look 'well' today or im very pale but i've had other people compliment me and say i look good preg on other days when i dont feel/look so bad so i guess he cant be lying all the time which makes me feel better and believe him more.
When I was pregnant with Yasin my DH in his usual blunt way told me that he'd always found pregnant women really unattractive but when it's your own baby in there it's different
I believed him because sparing my feelings at the expense of the truth is not really his style When I woke up this morning he took one look at me and told me that I looked like I'd been attacked by bees in my sleep - way to make your puffy wife feel better *sigh*
I found DW incredibly sexy when she was pregnant. It was awesome. And I feel a little bit sorry for the men out there that don't appreciate it - I think they're missing out on something very special.
Strange that atm I weigh less (pg and all) than when we started dating , so I actually look better now. Thing is that I worked hard to get my body slimmer and I think it's more me that struggeling to accept me atm.
I'll have to try and be more "trusting" in his opinion of how I look. Should just accept the compliment and give him a HUGE hug and some "cuddles" later.
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No sexy-ness in the mirror here either 
..not working though 
I definatly look with longing eyes at that lovely pg lady in the pg-undies ad ... thinking WHY, oh WHY can't I look like that 
I think I might just start feeling better when my bump is not this wobbel of a thing. But then again, by that time it's summer and OMG I would have to wear something cool!! I'm a whiner!!!!!!!!! 
Which I do 
, so I actually look better now. Thing is that I worked hard to get my body slimmer and I think it's more me that struggeling to accept me atm.
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