They sooooo see things differently than us. I wonder if we (women) makes the crusial mistake to compare us to the models we see in baby-mags or on TV, and our husbands just compare us to .. well, us I definatly look with longing eyes at that lovely pg lady in the pg-undies ad ... thinking WHY, oh WHY can't I look like that
Oh heck, Lulu ... send me some of that confidence I think I might just start feeling better when my bump is not this wobbel of a thing. But then again, by that time it's summer and OMG I would have to wear something cool!! I'm a whiner!!!!!!!!!
Don't get me wrong, I like being pg. I think my problem is that with my first pg, I was fit and slim and carried so very, very small that I did not even look pg. I handled it very well. THIS one is just not the same and I'm desperatly trying to come to terms with that. That said, going into this pg I knew things might be different ... I was just not prepeard for it.
But I'm glad that I'm not the only one who very much doubt my DH's compliments.
I didnt....then DF explained to me (over and over and over again!! lol) that he sees me as his PREGNANT parnter...And that the way I look when I am pregnant is sexy, because it is me, I still look good to him, and I am carrying his baby...which I think all men find appealing
DF still pulls out the lines now, when I make reference to my (already huge, now huger-er) breastfeeding boobs. Tell me that they show that I have fed and grown our beautiful girl and I should wear them with pride Which I do Even though I willcertainly never look like a pornstar again! lol
So I think you should believe him when he taells you you are sexy, because you are a fabulously sexy pregnant mumma!
Well said LimeSlice
Pregnant women are sexy.
You used to be his wife/partner and lover, and that’s pretty good but now you are growing his baby. You will soon be the mother of his child. He can watch the baby growing, see the baby moving, and feel the baby kicking. What could be sexier than that? Trust him when he says that you are sexy. Just sexy he can see in a picture but the sexiness he feels for you can only come from you and this far outstrips any nudie pic.
My man doesnt use the word "sexy", but rather beautiful. ANd when he holds me, touches me, kisses me, and tells me how beautiful i am i really do feel like the sexiest girl in the world.
I like Alan's description - its true, you are the most beautiful thing inthe world to your man (especially when you are pregnant), arms around the toilet bowl or not!
Sure there are some men out there who really aren't turned on by pregnant women and find it difficult during pregnancy to be intimate with their partner for a variety of reasons but most men do really find their partner attractive during pregnancy. We might think we look like rubbish but they don't see the things we do. They see the bigger breasts, rounding belly etc as sexy or beautiful and of course as evidence of their masculinity and ability to impregnante
As many of you have said that DH is just buttering you up for a bit of action - personally the fact that they are trying to get you into the mood for a bit indicates that they fancy you right? If they didn't find you sexy they wouldn't be putting in the groundwork to get you into bed would they? I think that is evidence for the case that yes they do actually find you sexy while pregnant.
Nope I don't believe a wod of it when he says it. I don't feel very sexy when I'm not pg, and when I am it's non existent! It doesn't help when DH tells me flat out at other times that he doesn't think pg women look sexy. Or the fact that he barely touches me or that we don't DTD almost at all. And he doesn't do things like he used to- watch me get out of the shower, get dressed....If I ask him if I look ok he has said 'as ok as you can being ... months pg'. Hmmm way to make a hugely pg, hormonal, insecure woman feel good.
kellieem - i have the same type of partner as you.
makes it very hard emotionally.
My problem was that i wanted to DTD often when i was pg and for the most part was pretty happy wit the way that i looked... when i didnt get any reassuring words and he was not interested in the bedroom it really really hurt and i started to not like my growing belly as much...
He has never liked the look of pg women, sure he loved the fact that i was growing his child and he loved the chenges, just not in my figure.
Be greatful that you have partners that love your sexy body and lap it up...
I would kill for a partner that wanted to butter me up for later when i was pg!!!
I definatly look with longing eyes at that lovely pg lady in the pg-undies ad ... thinking WHY, oh WHY can't I look like that
I think I might just start feeling better when my bump is not this wobbel of a thing. But then again, by that time it's summer and OMG I would have to wear something cool!! I'm a whiner!!!!!!!!!
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