Do you get frustrated by comments like this too???

[BrightSparkles]

"Oh - we can't wait to come and see the new baby!"

Umm... Hello.... what about mum who gave birth to this new baby or the DH/DP that had to endure the pregnancy also or the siblings who have to adjust to a new family member. Do they not matter???

I'm sure they do and i'm sure there is no malious (sp) meant by these comments but it frustrates me to no end.

There is more people involved in this that just the "new baby" !

[Dansta]

yep! my mother is the worst at that. but it'll be a little easier with a "baby boom" in my family - 4 babies from june onwards - one set of twins! to this being our second (and first for the other two) we may just be able to hide
I've told people that they're to talk to DJ (even though he'll be almost 17 months old 0_0 ) about his new brother/sister before they talk to the baby and congratulate him on being a big brother...then the baby after all DJ is the first born...he needs the attention!

[suse]

Well, I suppose from their perspective you, your DH and your existing kids are not 'new', kwim? So maybe it's not that they are dismissing you or the importance of your involvement, but that it goes without saying that they'll be seeing you. If someone brings flowers, they're for you, not for the baby.

Especially in the case of parents and family (cos it's usually family who say such things LOL), they've been seeing you for your whole life, so they're pretty used to it by now. In the same way that breathing is one of the most important things we do, but we don't really think or talk about it much, we just do it. So in some ways seeming blase about it might actually be a bit of a compliment about how important you are in their lives; so important that it just happens without having to talk about it much.

My mum always made me laugh when DS was tiny. She lived interstate and whenever she'd visit she'd be so excited to see him that she'd rush in and start hanging out with him without a thought for anyone else. After about five minutes I'd say 'Hi Mum', and she'd look up, realise that the rest of the universe still existed and get all sheepish. But it was hard getting mad at her about it because her excitement was so infectious.

[blackduckies]

I guess if you think about it we all talk about the new baby, the things we are going to do with them, the things we need to buy for them, how we want to birth them, what are we going to call them, it really is no wonder that people can't wait to welcome the new little person into the world.
Watching and waiting for 9 months or there abouts, feels like torture, to me..and there are a lot of others waiitng/hanging out to meet this new member of the family.
I don't know? these days I try not to let too much bother me, we are all made so differntly and shaped by our experiences, I let them be excited and make sure in our own immediate family that the kids feel special as well.

[BrightSparkles]

Well, I suppose from their perspective you, your DH and your existing kids are not 'new'

My mum always made me laugh when DS was tiny. She lived interstate and whenever she'd visit she'd be so excited to see him that she'd rush in and start hanging out with him without a thought for anyone else. After about five minutes I'd say 'Hi Mum', and she'd look up, realise that the rest of the universe still existed and get all sheepish. But it was hard getting mad at her about it because her excitement was so infectious.

My mum still does this
While it frustrates me I do get it and why people do it and most of the time it doesn't worry me but other times it frustrates me.

[suse]

LOL, so does mine, but she's improved a bit since she now sees him twice a week if not more. Now I usually get a hello within two minutes.

Seeing that he's the apple of her eye, I don't think we'll have a problem with him being adequately acknowledged when the new baby comes, I think if anything the new baby is going to have to fight for the attention.

[Peg]

this may sound mean but i hate that everyone wants to come to the hospital as soon as the baby is born.

I had a c-section in the morning around 9am and my in laws was at the hospital that very afternoon! I couldnt move, i felt like crap...seriously a little more time to recover would have been nice.

[skeetaboat]

I've told people that they're to talk to DJ (even though he'll be almost 17 months old 0_0 ) about his new brother/sister before they talk to the baby and congratulate him on being a big brother...then the baby after all DJ is the first born...he needs the attention!

I recommend directing visitors to talk and play with the first born before zooming in for baby cuddles (because in their excitement they don't always realise that it's important to do). Some of ours didn't even acknowledge our first born when they came to visit the new baby, and DS was very, very upset that the people who used to love and adore him, completely ignored him. He didn't cope with that at all and we had to do some major damage control.

[CinderToriella]

YES i hate them as well

they should want to come see all of us not just the new baby- who just went through labour who was there the whole way through it and helped create this baby

so true sunshine annoys me

[CinderToriella]

We dont want any family come for a few days- has anyone been able to tell there family NO lol

i dont know how to do it as im afraid they wont understand