To find out the flavour or not???

[LuluHB]

Let me start by saying I am a complete control freak and need to have everything under control, always, so I apologise for my nuttiness.

I found out the sex with both my girls and have no regrets doing it. DH didn't find out either time and I had no trouble keeping it from him. He doesn't want to find out this time either.

When we were TTC and throughout the early weeks I definitely didn't want to find out for this one - final baby, last big surprise etc. I think part of it was rebelling against all those that told me how desperate DH and I must be for a little boy, when nothing could be further from the truth. Now I'm starting to waver and think I will "need" to find out - my need to be organised and all that. I know I can buy a few neutral things to get us through and then do a big shop once bubs is here (I have nothing left from the girls so even if its a girl, I won't have stuff), but the thought of being that disorganised is making me stress a little.

So, I guess this is a question to the ladies who have done both - found out prior to birth and not. Is one better than the other? Do you with you hadn't found out your baby's gender? Or was it better to find out and you regret not finding out with the other bub/s?

[Miss E]

First time round we didn't find out. I'm also a control freak, but managed to be completely and utterly organised buying gender neutral stuff. I must admit though, the yellow only got worn once or twice because I thought it was too girly for a boy. But the greens and muted tones got lots of use and I also bought more outfits after he arrived.

This time we decided to find out... Only problem is that we've been told both genders. At our 18 week checkup my OB said girl. At our 20 week scan the sonographer said boy. The photo from the 20 week scan can be interpreted either way, so we're left guessing... I tend to think that the proper scan at 20 weeks is most likely to be right, but I guess I'm only 70% certain IYKWIM?

In my case I wish I had of left it as a suprise like last time. In a lot of ways this is also a suprise but I am obsessing looking at this damn photo and googling 20wk gender images over and over.

I certainly didn't regret not finding out with DS. I loved the suprise of it and like l said it really doesn't make any difference to how organised you are.

[Ginger]

i would find out if i was you, from what you have just described about yourself.

i didn't find out with ds1 and obsessed about it a lot during the pg! i did find out with ds2 and really liked knowing.

[Cranky Kitten]

I didn't find out with DD, though not from lack of trying! She was just a prim proper little lady and wouldn't show her bits to the camera for us We found out with Penguin though, to me it made little difference to the organisation side of things as I have a preference for strong, bright colours and never really ascribed to the blue/pink thing anyway. Plus there are heaps of cute things in neutral colours even if you're not keen on yellow

What I did like about knowing was being able to think of him in terms of specific gender rather than referring to him as "it" - kind of made him more like a little person growing inside me than an abstract concept. If it is making you stress though, I'd find out. Or even just have the sonographer write it on a piece of paper and pop it into an envelope for you to decide later if you're not totally sure.

[~Kim~]

I have chosen not to find out, found out by accident and was at the same crossroads you are.
Then I had my scan and told the sonographer no. But the picture was so good and clear, she didn't need to say it. Now I find myself wanting a confirmation. I had no baby stuff left either. The shopping here is so pathetic and it's really hard to find 'neutral' stuff I actually like. I also want to make some funky sheets....none of this pukey baby pastel colours, but funky and loud.
And yet DD's birth was so exciting since we didn't know. DS's wasn't quite that exciting, not that it wasn't exciting but.... you know.....

So. Now I'm stuck. DH desperately wants to know. I have another scan on the 15th....but I still don't know what to do. I haven't bought anything specific since I can't be sure, but do I just wait for the surprise?.....