I just found out my younger sister is having a baby. I'm actually thrilled for her, although she seems stressed that she is pregnant and doesn't want anyone to know. Well I got told by our blabber mouthed grandmother that my sis is pregnant and I wasn't to tell anyone until my sis feels ready to announce the pregnancy. My sister doesn't know that I know.
But still I'm super excited by the news and it is hard to surpress the wonderful annoucment that is going to come.
I'm willing to help her through her pregnancy of course she is going to have heaps of support. The thing is my partner sees my sister like his own kid (She is 19 and he is 37) and he dislikes my sister's boyfriend. They both have had altercations in the past and the four of us get on for my sister and I. I know when my partner hears the news he is flip. So guys how do I prepare my partner for the news without letting slip on what the big announcement my sister is going to present to us on the weekend?
maybe just tell him? but break it to him slowly? Like 'Hun we need to have a chat about 'sis', she is going to make an announcement on the weekend that may come as a shock to you' then depending on his reaction tell him. But tell him he has to act surprised yet be happy for her!
At the end of the day, it will not matter what your partner says about her BF - she will do as she pleases anyway until she herself has had enough.
I hope things go well and he can put aside his issues with her partner tobe happy for her
I'm did say she had news, however I'm afraid to tell him what it is myself because he to is also a blabbermouth, what I mean is he says stuff before he thinks about it.
He once told our former friends that I had to have an ultrasound on my cervix and uterus to see if I was fertile. I didn't want him to tell anyone about it but he went ahead and told them.
Hence why I'm keeping it a secret, just very worried about his reaction.
oh LOL @ blubbermouth. Hopefully he takes the news well then!
I would worry about his reaction after the news is said. Maybe have a little chat with him and say something along the lines of 'no matter what kind of news we get today, please be happy for her' or something like that.
Do you mind me asking why your partner doesnt like your sisters bf?
My partner dislikes my sister's boyfriend, because one time we were at their flat a few years ago, my sister had us over and she was talking to us and her boyfriend came in from work in a foul mood and complained the glasses and crockery wasn't washed so he stacked two glasses together and smashed it with his fist, followed by riping the moblie phone charger's line from it's plug.
My partner got really angry and chased the boyfriend into the back yard, held him against the fence and told him never to do that again in front of us.
It took a few months for things to go back on friendly terms. He treats my sister better I can say since that altercation.
So my partner is almost likely to flip once the news is announced. She is approx 9 weeks now. :-)
You could try to soften him up by telling him how you think she'll make a great mother one day? My sister had her bub at 19 (she's now 20, bub is a happy 7 month old) and I felt the need to defend and explain her everytime someone talked about her, but she is a fantastic mother (as i knew she would be) and her young body only took around 3 weeks to completely heal from a cs. If they're happy about the pregnancy, everyone else should be happy for them too!
Perhaps if he has an anger issue he might seek some counselling to help?
Congrats to your sis (sorry!) I'm sure things will sort themselves out. I am sure the both of them are happy, and I hope for your sisters sake your dp can be happy for them.
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