paranoid about miscarriage...

[mumisabella]

Hi there, i was just wondering if anyone is or has ever felt the same way as i am lately. i am currently 9 weeks pregnant and i find myself sometimes stressing that i may have already lost my baby and just don't know. i know it's a terrible thing to think but i am just so worried as i have read articles where women lose their babies and have not realised as their symptoms are still present or they did not get any signs such as cramping or bleeding. Lately my morning sickness has really eased off (i was only a little nauseus anyways), and sometimes my nipples aren't as big or as sore as other days. If i have not had any severe cramping or bleeding should i be worried? Has anyone ever heard of many people losing their bub without knowing? and does anyone know how common it is? i know i'm worrying a lot i just really don't want to lose my bubba! Any advice would be muchly appreciated. Thanks in advance x x x

[Arimeh]

I think what you are feeling is perfectly normal and natural!!! I was sooo worried up to about 14 weeks - even had a full on panic one day and was tempted to go to my OB and just get her to check that there was still a heartbeat!!!! And there was of course.
I think I'm worried this time around because my sister had a stillborn last year. But I was texting her for support during my "panics" and she was just telling me, everything is fine... be positive... if anything happens, there is nothing you can do to stop it, so just STOP WORRYING. Having this come from someone who suffered a huge loss made a big impact. And of course, hearing that heartbeat again at 14 weeks was fantastic!!!
We all worry, we all go through the same feelings, thoughts etc. Just take it day by day.
If you need to chat or anything, you are welcome to PM me anytime.
Take it easy!!!

[satya]

Missed m/c's do happen, not sure how common they are. I noticed you've suffered a loss in the past. What you are feeling is pretty common when you have already experienced a loss.

Symptoms can change from week to week and it doesn't necessarily mean anything if you aren't having many. My BBs have not been sore since about 6 weeks yet my pregnancy is going really well. I never had a moment of morning sickness either. I've had the odd ache or pain but some days I find hard to believe I'm pregnant (those days are less and less now that I've got a sizeable bump).

There's a monthly thread on here called pregnancy after miscarriage and loss where those of us who have experienced loss share our feelings on a day to day basis. It's a great place to be because there's always someone there who's been through it already, it's very reassuring. Come and join us.

[mumisabella]

oh thankyou all so much for the advice and support, it is really comforting and helps ease the worry a little. I will be sure to visit the monthly thread and that will hopefully help a little more. i am just sooo anxious for my 12 week scan, just so i can make sure my beautiful baby is fine! i think as parents, all we do is worry! Thanks again, God bless x x x

[~Belinda~]

I know how you feel, I was the same with Madeleine and worried myself sick for the first 12 weeks. I looked at your signature and noticed that you had lost a Bub at 17 weeks, I am really sorry this happened and what you had to go through, it must have been terrible

I miscarried years ago and had to have an early scan with this one at 7 weeks just to put my mind at ease that there was a heartbeat there! I think it's normal to worry though so you're definately not alone.

I am so happy I have Madeleine and you will be so happy to hold your little one in your arms soon, best of luck with your pregnancy

[Beach Mama]

It is so hard isn't it... I was the same with Isabelle and now with no#2 I'm just as paranoid. I check my knickers a billion times a day and just can't wait to have my 12 week scan too...
I guess it is all part of being a mum, once you have the 12 week scan you worry about the 20 week. Once you have that you worry about giving birth, once you have your miracle in your arms you worry each day about feeding/sleeping/is that swollen tummy normal/should she be hiccuping all the time/should I give her skin on the sausage... I don't think it ever ends and makes us all awesome mums who care so dearly about their children.
I hope you can try to relax a little and the next few weeks leading up to your 12 week scan flies by.

[[M]umma[M]ia]

hey..

I know how you feel. I have never had a loss but i find myself worrying about it everyday, have i misscarried?? or havent i?? Its easy for people to say "dont worry everything will be fine", but to me its just not that easy. I spose im a sucker for bad luck and i feel something is going to go wrong. Most days i wake up and dont even feel pregnant, but like u i just cant wait till the 12 weeks to see that everythings fine. So hun, i do feel for u and see exactly where ur coming from.

Take care and wishing u all the best.

[~Belinda~]

Oh Holly, don't think things will go wrong in your life, otherwise they will, think positive hun, you'll be fine!

I agree with Tan, you constantly worry as a Mum, it's all natural and what makes us the best Mums in the world...