hey love, well that's ust a terrible situation to be in.

Personally, if i'd already paid the fees and wanted to go private for the hospy, I would write a very clear birth plan, get a doula and get DH to obtains his phd in obst ASAP. That way if your doc tries anything on, you can access your two support people who have a fairly good knowledge of what's happening and make an inforrmed decision.

but if you will find having to fight for your natural birth too stressful, cut your losses and go public.

you really shouldn't have to fight for anyting or be in this positon. Good luck, I hope you get the birth you want. I think you'll be fine tho cos you are obviously already pretty clear on what you want and have been doing your own research.