Make sure you have an abundant supply of nappies and wipes and puke cloths waiting at home for bubs. They poop a lot more than you think they do, and plenty of goo comes out the other end too, so puke cloths rock. Best puke cloths are the flat towelling nappies - I got my mother to make us dedicated puke cloths, which were just towelling hemmed into smallish rectangles, small tea-towel size. I had a dribble-burper.

As to the pee thing - you're just being scared by other people. I've had 'grazes' with both, and yes, it stings like crazy. But it is only for 2 or 3 days tops. Think papercut and lemon juice level of sting, just on your girly bits.

I just got a baby care pack in the mail yesterday in a mammoth box, it had almost everything you need (and a few things you don't) in it except nappies. 2 kinds of baby bath, baby shampoo, baby lotion, sorbolene, baby cotton buds, three different kinds of wipes, baby powder, hooded towel, polar fleece blanket, breast pads, a few onesies and a 4pack of socks Mostly a Johnsons baby starter pack and the gift giver had topped it up with stuff from Best&Less and BigW, so they'd put together a practical pack without spending too much.