I HATE what my body is doing and how it is feeling.
But I also have no maternal instinct yet, cannot feel my baby, am already fat so am not showing well so don't feel emotionally connected to it in any way.
Dee, while I don't hate what my body *looks* like (I actually find it quite freeing being pregnant and enjoy the look of it more then than when I'm not - probably because there's an excuse for the big jelly belly ) I hate how it feels, and during pregnancy I'm one long whinge.
I have chronic pain that just gets worse with pregnancy, I get so tired I cry from it nearly every day, I get massive headaches, my heart pounds, and my pelvis really, really hurts. And I know that in two months' time the really painful movement is going to start, and the irritable uterus has started up...
After five kids, though, I've learned to go with the flow. If I need a sleep, I have a sleep. If I need a jolly good walk, I go and have one. If I don't want to eat lunch and I just want fruit all afternoon, I've just learned that my body is trying to tell me something and I just do what it's telling me.
When dd5 was about five months old, I remember sitting on her bed in front of the mirror in her room and wincing at my hands. My fingers are quite stubby, and the skin on them is quite wrinkly from too much sun. But I thought, look at what those hands are doing. I was patting her back and holding her and transmitting so much love through those hands. And I looked at her hands the same way she must look at my hands - gentle things that guide her, hold her, stroke and soothe her. And I felt so much better about my hands after that.
Dee, you really look beautiful ok? In fact you, Nai and Rainforest look so perfectly pregnant you make me very clucky. I really mean that - Nai you were GLOWING the other day, Rainforest you radiate happy, and Dee your bump is perfect - I forgot to tell you the other day. You look like a mummy to be, it won't be much longer till its over AND.......you will feel 1000% literally as soon as he is born, once he is out...aaahhhhhh man it feels so good!
i love the fact that i'm pregnant and have this beautiful baby growing inside me, and i love it when it kicks and i can feel it move about, however i can't help but feel fat at times too.
but what i really can't deal with is the fact that other pregnant mothers and past pregnant mothers are always comparing their bellies to mine. this is so irritating and i can't stand it.
i've always been a very small frame and i still am whilst pregnant and seem to be all belly (except these lovely veins and celulite on my legs), but i have still gotten a bit concious of my growing body, and sometimes just need that encouragment, like all of us do, that our bodies are beautiful, especially whilst pregnant.
but i have lots of mums coming up to me at kindy all the time asking me when i'm due and saying oh your way smaller than me when i was at that stage, and also i have mothers come up to me and say, oh your huge at that stage and you must be having one huge baby cause i wasn't that big. then i get all concious and have to come home and check in the mirror or the net to make sure it's all right.
ridiculous i know but i can't help it. then i find myself avoiding them when i see then coming in.
i would just like the nice comments not the negative ones.....ha ha is this possible.
I'm not pregnant at the moment, but I hear ya! Especially at the end of the pregnancy when those hormones were making me eat crazy crazy food. Urgh I hated my body. I think it's pretty normal.
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) I hate how it feels, and during pregnancy I'm one long whinge.
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