Has anyone been told the wrong gender at the 18 wk scan? Was I?
Hi everyone,
I had my 18 wk scan about 5 weeks ago and I cant stop thinking that I 'MAY' have been told the wrong gender. This is what happened:
The sonographer who performed the scan asked us if we wanted to know the sex of the baby. We excitedly said yes, and were promptly told the baby was a GIRL. I was very happy and surprised, so I asked him a few moments later if he was sure. He said yes, its a girl. Just as he was about to turn off the machine he said, 'ohh, Im sorry...I think its actually a boy', and he showed us what appeared to be a little penis. (Nothing else). The view was straight down the legs (ie from the top looking down on the legs), not underneath as is usually used to determine gender. Therefore I didnt see any other 'boy bits'. He showed us this, and quickly turned off the machine.
About 2 weeks later we showed the picture to my obs, who said that the u/s photos were so unclear, and that the only one which showed underneath between the legs could not be used to determine the gender b/c it was too dark. He guessed that it was a boy because he couldnt see the three lines usually seen for a girl, but that he couldnt see any boy bits either, and that he was only guessing.
So my question is.... is it a boy? Could it have been the cord we saw? I have little faith in the sonographer because he told us a girl initially, then boy. Im pretty sure it is a boy, but Im just curious what people think.
None of mine were wrong.
When I had DD1 he wasn't too sure, because she had her legs crossed in front of her, but he couldn't see 'any extra bits hanging out', as he said, so he guessed she was a girl, but couldn't say for sure.
With DD2 we wanted a boy, but he was pretty sure she was a girl. I got him to check twice.
With DS I had the u/s & was told a boy, but she couldn't say 100%. So when I had to have another one coz he was stubborn, The lady who did the 2nd one actually showed me his boy bits. It was the most beautiful pic I'd ever seen!
When I had him I was told there were a few mistakes made with the sex recently.
I've heard that unless they actually see a scrotum they will say its a girl. So its possible it was hiding, then he got a quick view.
Yeah, people are told the wrong gender all the time. I have a friend who is a middy and she says it happens frequently, and I know a few people who have had it happen too. Look on the bright side, at least you know that it might be wrong, rather than finding out at the birth LOL.
I'm sure most people don't think it matters at all, once they've come around to the idea. But what if they've done alot of preparation? That would be a bit annoying.
One BB lady was told the wrong sex, and she found out at another scan days before the birth! She had reasons though for being concerned about what sex she had........I'll let her tell you about it though
i would be very concernd, I am worried about this when we start trying for another baby, We have 2 DS and I desperatly want a girl, so I am going to do all the preparation to try and see if that is what we can have, ( if not at least i tried lol). So I would be very upset and devistated if the told me it was a girl and then ended up being a boy. I know I would come around and love the child just the same though but it would be heartbreaking for us.
Is there any way you can have another scan and see?
I know someone who got it wrong (at the 12 week) and when they found out at the 20 week my friend was devestated. It's not she wanted one sex more, but she'd bonded and basically planned her future (as you do). She had 20 weeks to adjust, but I can understand her shock.
I would get another u/s if I was you. To me that is the most unclear thing I've ever heard. Im sorry for you that he didn't spend another few minutes having a good look for the three lines. xo
I had issues with gender with DD2.
I desperately wanted a boy.
I hoped the whole way through the pregnancy that they were wrong. They weren't.
I am glad that I knew before hand though. I had the rest of the pregnancy to prepare myself. I had to find out with DS. I don't know what I'd have done if he was another girl. I don't know why, but I needed him.
Lulu2 & Webmeg - I think 16 weeks is the earliest they cen tell. So they had no chance of knowing at 12 weeks.
My sonographer told us at 12 weeks he was 80% sure it was a boy...we took it with a grain of salt and in our minds, we genuinely didn't know what we were having as we thought it was just waaay too early to tell. We just forgot about it after a little while.
It was only a while after he was born that we thought...hey, he was right!
They can apparently have a go at 12 weeks, but it's pretty iffy, that why they usually won't tell you then. I do know a couple of people who were told what the sex might be at 12 weeks.
I wouldn't be feeling too confident either way with that response.. with DD we were told it was a 70% chance and this time around the sonographer was very sure and looking at the pics (in my gallery!) we are too. Having said that, I have a little space in the back of my mind open to the fact that scans are not an exact science and that this bubby could surprise us all by being another little girl! I have bought boy stuff and am about to decorate his room etc. but know that all might change in 8 weeks time... It's a tough one but it doesn't sound like he was too sure either way.
My neighbour was told on I think 8 different occasions that she was having a boy. She had a girl. This was about 10 years ago so I guess the machines are better these days but I still would've thought they would've got it right somewhere along the line. She only found out it was a girl at the birth.
I would never have gone out buying blue clothes for my bub if I hadn't known for sure that it was indeed a he. I knew this as we'd had an amnio. Even so my sonographer told me of an incident where an amnio report said one sex and the ultrasound clearly showed the opposite sex. Turned out the person typing the amnio report and done a typo - the actual results showed it was the sex that matched the scan. Luckily the parents of the bub didn't want to know the sex so there was no disappointment involved.
Thanks guys. Im still not 'sure' if its a boy or girl, but I think its a boy based on the sonographers educated guess. We dont want another scan at this stage because it is kind of 'fun' not really knowing.
We found out our first DS was a boy at 19 weeks and there was never any doubt of this at any one of the 4 scans I had. The sonographers (and my Obs) were always sure and showed me the appropriate 'evidence' then (Ie the view from underneath). I suppose I just expected this time to be the same. I thought it should be pretty obvious if it is a boy, but apparently not. I never knew that they got it wrong so many times.
I was told the gender with my twins, boy & girl, they were correct.
Didn't find out with my next daughter, although I was admitted to hosp at 37 weeks, and the midwife accidently told me, as it was written on my u/s results.
Wanted to find out with my last daughter, but couldn't tell at 20 week scan, asked at 32 weeks, were told it looked like a boy - but she wasn't 100% as what she could see may not be a scrotum at all but a foot!!! Would have preferred not to have been told at all. She was wrong anyway - it was a girl!!!
Don't think I will find out this time.
Has anyone been told the wrong gender at the 18 wk scan? Was I?
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It's a tough one but it doesn't sound like he was too sure either way.
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