Thanks so much Tennykins, AJC, BW, Belfie and Chocolatecatty. It's nice to have so much reassurance, I think it is right that some problem may have been missed by one of the midwives and that's why they've stopped the scans.
I think that you're right Belfie, it's hard for me to believe I've got this far and there's still something in the back of my head that's saying 'this can't possibly work out'. I think I keep getting disappointed in myself that I'm still not able to fully embrace it, my missed m/c was at 9 weeks and 5 days, so I'm way past that point, but part of me still feels like it's going to happen again. I lurch from worrying about one thing to worrying about another and it feels endless. I'm glad that everything is going well for you and your bubs!
BW - yes, definitely hard to get my head around being in the second trimester now. After my NT scan the sonographer said risk of miscarriage was now 1 in 500, which really should reassure me. Still, says my mind, it has to happen to someone. I really do want to get on top of this doom and gloom worry though, otherwise I think I'll regret not enjoying my pregnancy - for so long I was so desperate to be pg again, so I should be trying to enjoy it now that I am. Congratulations on reaching 16 weeks!!
I'll do a little subliminal chant for you.. hehe... You're pregnant.. you ARE pregnant... second trimester!
I remember writing some very similar posts at your stage, and these lovely experienced ladies who were 3rd trimester would post to reassure me... and I'd look at their tickers and it would just blow my mind to think someone could be 30+ weeks.. I just couldn't imagine it back then. I felt sometimes I would never make it. So you know what? Before you know it... YOU will be doing this for someone else.. and you'll be 30+ weeks and it will seem as though it will all have gone so fast!!
I think the other reality is that there is always something you can worry about... and that's the biggest challenge of all - finding a way to focus on the positive and not the what if's... because lets face it, once your bubba is born, I'm sure there will always be something new we can worry about! I remember someone told me her mantra was "right here, right now, I'm pregnant and i'm going to enjoy it!" I always thought that was such a lovely way of thinking about it. And we're not superwomen, so yup, sometimes it's easier said than done... but it doesn't hurt to try it.
And I'm just sitting here thinking about the beautiful little growing bean that you have in your belly - and it's gonna grow up and be whole big person. WOW!
And if it helps, my little bubba (you know, that one I thought wouldn't make it), well he's a little boy, and we already know we're going to call him Xander Jordan (aka Xandy-pants teheh)... the hardest thing is keeping it secret from friends & family! We just tell every stranger we meet instead! HAHA!
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