How many times have you been pregnant? *Sensitive topic*

[Freya]

The miscarriage stats are skewed because they dont allow for if there was a medical reason for miscarriage, for termination and so on.

Ive seen a very well known miscarriage specialist and when we discussed my losses he said the "normal" miscarriage stats are 1 in 6. For women like me with a disorder that can (and more often than not does) cause miscarriage and stillbirth, its more like 1 in 4. For me based off my miscarriage vs live birth stats, it's 1 in 2.

1 in 2 is a pretty scary thing to hear.

If I follow the plans he's set for me before and during pregnancy is should raise my stats back to 1 in 4, if not 1 in 6.

So while yes the miscarriage stats are quite heartbreaking to hear, there are alot of factors that go into infuencing it and it usually becomes a case by case basis not an overall figure for every women of child bearing age. And its not always stagnate either, it can be changed.

[Freya]

And I also want to say, I have very nearly been on both sides of the losing a pregnancy equation. Ive had 5 first trimester losses and they broke my heart. I completely understand that pain.

Ive also been within a hairs breath of feeling the unimaginable pain of losing a baby in the 2nd trimester. I am forever grateful we got to take him home happy and healthy in the end but when nurses start talking to you about funerals and baptising and grief counsellors, and everything is out of your control and up to higher powers; if the pain I touched on in those horrifying hours is even a minute glimpse of what it feels like to have to go home without a baby to hold; I can assure you its heart SHATTERING. And thats not even doing it justice. It gave me a renewed admiration, respect and sympathy for those who've been there. The experience I had scarred me for life and we were one of the lucky ones!

ETA - I dont talk about what we went through in Ds2's pregnancy because it almost seems..........disrespectful because we got to take him home. I really hope I dont offend anyone because like I said, I KNOW the pain I felt is nothing compared to those who've walked that path to the end.