I guess it comes down to personal opinion as well then. For me, I don't mind so much that they died, because of my religious beliefs regarding death - my problem is that I have no photos, no ashes, not even a gender. I guess you've hit a nerve with me, but I do understand what you're saying
I agree it kills me that if the topic of my 1st pregnancy comes up people just bruch it off cos "it wasn't a real baby. Well i'm sorry but i was pregnant therefore there was a baby! Missed miscarriage (went for my 12week scan and baby had died at 8w) It hurts not knowing what sex bub was, what bub looked like. I see what you're saying that a full term loss is "worse" but i don't feel that any loss should be seen as unimportant and i did feel that maybe it was implied that early losses don't really matter... Or maybe i'm over sensitive today.

To answer your question blessed at last 4 pregnancies, 1 missed m/c, 2 DD's and one still baking.