I am so disappointed

[Feijoa Mum]

Well it has taken me 24 hours to post this as I am still numb and have been crying on and off all day.

We had a scan yesterday and it seems that Shaniqua has a willy.
I dont mean this to come across as mean or ungrateful or anything like that as I know there are many women out there who would give their right arm to be in my place, but I am numb and I dont know how to process this.

I think I went into a bit of shock on the table as my blood pressure bottomed out and I nearly passed out.
We had two scans done at 20 weeks because I couldnt believe after four boys we really were getting our longed for little girl. But yes thats the "toaster" we look for, for a girl and there is certainly nothing there to indicate a boy.
My excitement at been able to finally buy pink clothes, the pride I felt when saying "yes its a girl" the thoughts of all the girly things I was finally going to get to do I was over the moon.
Now at 35 weeks its gone! Why me? Why did they have to get it wrong with us??
We havent told anyone yet as I am not ready for the cliche'd responses and sympathy looks. I want to process it in my head first but I dont know where to start. I dont want to hang on to the maybe it still is a girl I need to start believing it is a boy so I can "grieve" I know that sounds so crazy because my baby is fine and looks healthy and happy but I feel like I have lost her.

[LionsandBears]

No real words, just lots of

[Rainbow_Mumma]

DH was the other way around when we found out Bellah was a girl although its not the same they got it right for us. However an old friend of mine was told at numerous scans she was having a girl bought all pink, decked all the nursery out and birthed a boy!
I am so sorry you arent happy with the sex, is this your last pregnancy?

[onthefly]

I can understand it must have been a shock. Take some time

[Trillian]

Hun, maybe you would like to join the closed group for Gender dissapointment? It will give you a more private space to digest all this and work through everything that you are feeling ATM

[~Trish~]

Oh what a shock . I'm so sorry you were told the wrong gender, it is a lot to take in at this late stage .

[RhiChiChi]

To be honest, when I first started reading your post - I was getting a bit peed-off to say the least (4 m/c & ttc # 2 for 16 months), but then I read further about you being told it was a girl, selling all your boy items etc... and I feel really quite sad & somewhat disappointed for you. I think Trillian's suggestion to go to the Gender Dis thread would be a good idea. I hope you can find some peace.

[boomba]

Oh hun Wish there was more I could say xxxx

[squidipa]

wow i am shocked also, wow how could they get it wrong my head says. for all of you is all i can say or do i know how reserved you were when told a girl you were so suprised and just when your so close to be told they ahd it wrong is so unfair.
sweet
xoxox Kitty

[Toomanytoomany]

To be honest, when I first started reading your post - I was getting a bit peed-off to say the least (4 m/c & ttc # 2 for 16 months), but then I read further about you being told it was a girl, selling all your boy items etc... and I feel really quite sad & somewhat disappointed for you. I think Trillian's suggestion to go to the Gender Dis thread would be a good idea. I hope you can find some peace.

Me too - and then I remembered how I felt when they told me that baby #6 was a boy, after five girls, and how I nearly fell off the ultrasound table. Gender disappointment had always been one of my big OHNOYOUDIDN'T! issues, but now I know what I'd have felt like if later on they'd said they'd made a mistake and it was another girl. I know I'd have got over it and loved the baby just the same, but yeah, you've got this picture in your mind of the baby you were having, you had hopes and dreams attached to that, and you have to let those go now, and there will be hurt involved in that.

I hope that the hurt isn't too bad, and that you are able to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. I hope you get some time to buy some special little things for your wee little boy.

[Feijoa Mum]

Yes five is definately enough for our household, so no more pregnancies for me.

I have only pink. I ebayed like mad and sold all my blue to replace it with pink. I put it all away this morning as I dont want to look at it.
I know I will be ok and get through this but I am struggling right now.

[~clover~]

I know how you feel hun I felt like that with DD2. It was very different, as I only had one girl at the time, but I understand 100%.
I knew deep down she was a girl, but right to the second she was born & I could see it for myself I hoped she would still be a boy.
You will start to feel better about it & accept it. But I don't think that longing ever goes away. I have DS now & still sometimes think how DD2 should've been a boy. Specially since she's as rough as one, lol.
Thinking of you xx

ETA - I've got loads of boy stuff I was going to sell in a garage sale tomorrow. NB up. PM me your address if you want it