Hi There again,

We have spoken before about this concern as i too experienced a 4th degree tear. I have been told that a c/s is my best option for bub #2. While i find it hard to accept that i wont experience a natural delivery again, i personally could not risk more damage the second time around should i tear again. The thought of having to deal with permanent incontinence or similar is just to much for me to risk. My recovery was long and painful and being separated from my girl for a few hours immediately after her delivery was really difficult. Like you said 45 min and seeing it all happen compared to a few hours away and completely out of it can make all the difference. For my next birth i have already decided to opt for the c/s but have done some research on how to make the c/s as wonderful as possible. Maybe you could chat with your ob about how you can make the c/s an empowering experience should you choose this option. Good luck with whatever decision you make and enjoy your pregnancy!

J xo