Reply With QuoteThat is such a ROOOOOD thing to say... I can only remember a couple of DF's workmates giving me the congrats when I was pg, not one family member said it
BellyBelly Member
Big hugs babe... some people are just idiots....
I rarely get congratulations.. and its sooo sad.. I dont care If I have 1 baby or bloody 10, each one is so precious...
I think over the years I have copped every disgusting reaction you can imagine....
Registered User
That is such a ROOOOOD thing to say... I can only remember a couple of DF's workmates giving me the congrats when I was pg, not one family member said it
Registered User
Oh and csab and PB an extra big hug and hearty congratulations to you both!
csabseriously, I can’t believe your “friend”!
BellyBelly Member
Nic, I get the same.. DH's family are always excited, but never ANYTHING from my own....
Thanks Epacris!!!
Registered User
Oh but Jodie, boy were they all quick to rush up and have cuddles when she was born...
BellyBelly Member
Hahaha, exactly!!!!
I hear mum ALL THE TIME telling other people what a wonderful mum I am , and how lucky she is to have these beautiful grandkids... its all a show, and I hate it....
Registered User
I think it is a deeply personal question and I find it offensive. When pregnant with my second child, an aquaintance asked if the pregnancy was 'planned'. She was also pregnant, with what she said was an 'unplanned' pregnancy, so I figure that is why she asked me. Nevertheless, I was a little offended at the question. We had just had an early miscarriage and the pregnancy was very much planned and wanted.
Regardless, unplanned does not mean unwanted.
Congratulations on your pregnancy!
Registered User
I know Rachel, I know.......gosh, I got this too when I first started telling people, wish I hadn't told people till I was ummm say 8.5 months....the worst response was "well, I don't know if I should congratulate you or not, are you happy?", ugh, and for a hormonal pregnant woman I felt like I had just been slapped in the face, and it was from a 'good friend'. Yes, apparantely, there are rules about a) how many kids are deemed appropriate b) your age c) blah blah blah anything else they care to put you in a box about.....so yeah...people, the only appropriate response is 'Congratulations' - anything else don't even bother with thank you very much and if you do I might just start asking you about your sex life/ contraception, etc. If only I was that rude.....
Is this a subject close to my heart?????...ummmm... YES.
So, hugs hun...they're just jealous that your a soon-to-be-mumma of three gorgeous kids!!!
Laurin x
Last edited by Boo Boo; October 7th, 2010 at 09:18 AM. : typos
Registered User
The most common response I got with my first preg was, 'how far are you? Not too late for a termination?'
Registered User
PZ - how revolting, if you get any comments like that, their not your friends and I would wipe them off your friendship list. God people are revolting/obnoxious. It's all about them isn't it and putting people in a box and whether THEY think your living YOUR life the way THEY want you to!!!! Grrrr
Registered User
PZ Hooley Dooley!
LaurinThanks darling!
Registered User
My dads response was 'get an abortion'. Nice hey
Registered User
People are so mean! And isn't he glad you didn't, Jade is the most gorgeous thing ever!
Registered User
Yep i was told by a very close friend (or so i thought he was) to "get rid of it" a child would only ruin my life, no because it was an even bigger reason why i would never sleep with him.
BellyBelly Member
We had been married for 6 years when we had DD1 and we got a lot of 'Finally!' when we told people. I don't know if that was much better than the 'Don't you own a TV?' we have had for DD2 and this pregnancy.
People are just rude!
Congratulations on your pregnancy, Epacris. That's wonderful news
Registered User
PB - Definately, each and everyone no matter how many we have is a true blessing. Congrats again hun. Omg, cant believe the termination comment. shocking.
Nic - I have had complete stranges say congratulations but not from close friends, get more the OMG your crazy look and then the sarcastic comments. I did get some congrats from some family. hugs isnt it always the way, once bub arrives they all want the first cuddle. I often remind my friend how I was never supported by anyone (apart from on here) and that I wasnt even congratulated. She replies, Ohhh except for me I supported you. Pfffff.
Epacris - Thankyou hun, its funny you know this friend didnt congratulate me when I was pg with Miss V, yet I was thrilled for her when she found out she was pg just 5wks later of me finding out I was. When I told her that I was pg this time, she turned to me and said Ohh she thought she was but turned out she wasnt. Still didnt give a congrats, yet would have expected one from me if she was. Which I would have done anyway. Yet we see each other practically every week, our DH's have become quite good friends, yet she had not once asked me how the pgcy was going or how I was until I didnt answer her calls. Yet I know she isnt all that interested in knowing, so i dont say much. When I do say something the subject changes.
Dont know if you would believe this, but after I had V and was still in hospital my sister stayed and looked after the kids. My DH would go and have dinner with the friends as they would say, Ohhh come over have some dinner and then we can all go and see csab. By the time they would get to the hospital visiting hours were almost over, so lucky if DH would visit for 10mins. DH kept saying that he wasnt there every night, but she would say otherwise. Honestly DH works long hours with our business so didnt expect any visits through the day, but I was so upset about that. Yet as soon as friend had her bub, it was different. The thing was I really needed the support of my DH with everything that was going on with Little V and it was like they kept him busy with them, like my feelings didnt mean anything. I am actually quite worried about how it will turn out this time. I am really hoping they dont interfere with DH coming this time, as with any luck he will be on holidays unless this bub comes early, and he will need to be with the kids.
Sorry abit of a whine, is a bit of a touchy subject for me. lol
Congrats again hun.
Booboo - Thats exactly it, they want you to live the life they want you too, their way. In part I also think jealousy plays apart too. All any of us want is to hear Congratulations, nothing else. hugs
tattoo mamma - What a comment, I actually think my dad would have been over the moon with me expecting no.6, as he always wanted 6kids. hugs hun. dad passed away when DD4 was 9mths old. hugs
Registered User
Some real shockers girls, far out people are insensitive and downright rude ... And TM
Rach its hard to come up with a good response.... You really want to say something like "well since you're so interested next time I'll send you daily emails about cervical mucus" but when you're actually put on the spot you're a bit too stunned to say anything!
Registered User
i had this sometimes, and im getting it this time too....sometimes i think people just want juicy gossip! it is very personal and rude! i say stick with your 'thats very personal im not going to answer that' response!!
congrats on your pregnancy!
Bookmarks